Abandonment.

[g_whiz]

You could say that January has been my month of optimism (whether or not it pays off? Quite another story). I've been humbled to silence by the transition of power in Washington. I've seen MILK twice and have been rendered furious at the cyclical nature of civil rights, the profoundly harmful nature of apathy and obliviousness.

It becomes an

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[ext_157413]

I don't have cable, nor do I generally watch Lifetime, but this film looks like it could be a way to open doors to discussion. I also think of the HBO version of Angels in America, with the mother/son relationships there; a very provocative set of considerations.

[g_whiz]

I think so too, though I've not taken the time to watch it yet. I'm going to sit down with a bottle of red and give it a good look tomorrow. I'd be curious about what you think too. Thanks for the consideration Mr. Fad.

Best,
G

Live your life

[slc0804]

Ok. So I have had a couple (who has not on a Saturday night) and begin to question this obsession. Gavin, if I am wrong, please let me know. Have you ever been rejected by your family? friends? Given your recent facebook and LJ postings, I begin to wonder. I am concerned that you have stopped living your life. I mean living, not existing and reading and finding deeper (though relevant)dismay in the lives of others. Please do not take this the wrong way. I simply want you to find happiness in your own life before finding unhappiness in others' lives. Haven't seen you in a while and would like to hang out and talk. Love you!

Living is relative, feeling is imperative.

[g_whiz]

I don't entirely want to make this about me, because its not...but yes, I've got friends I've known since before I could string together articulate sentences that won't return my calls. Institutions that think I'd be too "controversial" to parents if I were to teach their children. I haven't had a cordial conversation with my Father in half a decade, and I'm almost positive I'd never be able to bring home a long term partner without watching my parents implode. For every stable friendship I've earned here, I've got that much more that rule me out for the same reasons/stigmas

[slc0804]

Cycles are necessary to progress. Think about the relatively short period of time in which these rights have been recognized for many ethnic groups. Lifestyles (debatable phrase, I know)are the logical next step to the racial rights that were granted only 40 something years ago. In the whole course of western progression, this is a very short period of time. Look at how long women had to struggle to gain rights in a patriarchial society (a struggle, not unlike gay rights,that is directly contrary to Biblical texts), and black women were the latest ones to feel the benefits of this struggle. It will come for gay rights, but patience is a must, and like most struggles, unfortunately, there will be victims, and those victims will fuel the changes necessary. As long as there are strong voices like MLK and others, not militant voices, society will evolve. I know a gay man in San Francisco who was originally abandoned by his ultra-conservative Mormon family who is now a successful middle-school principal and accepted by his family.