I really don't like deadlines....

[fish_echo]

I really don't do well with deadlines. I've known this quite a long while but I think I might just be starting to realise that that means I ought to plan around them rather than attempting to make my brain work with them.

And mostly related to that, I'm very nearly finished with my multi-fandom rec set for help-haiti, so if I'm awesome and not horribly

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[moragmacpherson]

But what if humiliation was the kink? ;-) Just saying...

I'm someone who doesn't just work with deadlines, I need the bastards. Otherwise, my stuff doesn't get done. It relates to the whole "I do things for other people, not for me" issue I've got working - if I know me missing a deadline is going to screw the other person over, then stuff will be handed in three weeks ahead of schedule. Otherwise, it'll get done when I feel like doing it - which is hardly ever anywhere near on time. This is why I always work best for hard-asses - people who are chill don't force me into work mode. Then we both wind up screwed.

[fish_echo]

There's a nontrivial difference between finding kinks humiliating and having a humiliation kink... And humiliation as a kink is one of those where I have to say 'your kink is not my kink' because whilst I know intellectually that it can be done in a loving, trusting, respecting relationship, all too often in fic I as the reader end up not feeling that and only feel the humiliation/shame (which is not something I find sexy at all

[moragmacpherson]

Douglas Adams, and I believe it's still Towel Day in your time zone, so a timely quote as well.

Comment was half-cheek, half-curiosity as your original post read somewhat ambiguous on the matter, but you've cleared it up now. I find the idea of judgmental kink-authors fascinating, and I wonder how many of the anon-kink authors fall in that category. Self-loathing is hard to take; then again, I just watched the entire first season of Dexter in a day, so I've got some odd ideas going off in that direction at the moment.

But I might understand it in this case: one of the reasons I've never written porn is because I get too embarrassed to even type the words out; if I was writing about something that I found distinctly un-sexy, it might feel less personal, and thus easier to put on the page and send out into the world. That sentence was a hell of a run-on and it might not make sense, but I can't think of any other way to put it.

[fish_echo]

First, have I mentioned how much I love that icon yet? It's from the 'words, words' bit, isn't it