Comments | firstcrusader: Un-inter-rupted!

firstcrusader

Un-inter-rupted!

Nov 02, 2006 13:26

So browsing around on Noel's blog today, I came across an interesting post, which, of course, especially grabbed my attention due to the retention of the name Lisa:

The Ten Commandments of Marital Purity 1. I shall have no other human relationships before Lisa, including the kids ( Read more... )

bible, church, dating, relationship

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djsamwise November 3 2006, 16:04:26 UTC

"requires the follower to deny sexual urges in such a categorical way as to imply that there is something intrinsically wrong with said urges"
What about the urge to involve any 3rd party in said urges? It's my understanding both professionally and spiritually that to give in to urges involving the imgages of third parties only rewards the behaviot of looking outside your spouse for sexual entertainment and closer to actually involving third parties and violating the vows you made with your spouse for third parties.

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anonymous November 4 2006, 08:35:22 UTC

Yeah, I wasn't talking about imposing rules on other people.. just pointing out my own observations of the conectedness of simmilar behavioral patterns. A pot head is more likely to try acid than a non-pothead. In my own observations and studies I've noticed that a porn addict is more likely to be enticed to break his or her marriage vow than the non porn addict. I'm not telling anyone what to do though..

To amswer your question, I'd say only the parties involved get to make thier vows and decide whether or not to impose rules based on them or to break them.

Peace
-Ryan

eitak3a November 3 2006, 13:37:51 UTC

It's #6 that most disturbs me, I think. Not traveling alone? How realistic is that? And how controlling is that? My Dad went on business trips a few times a year when I was younger, and my Mom was extremely supportive -- Dad loved to travel and it was also his only chance to get a bit of time away. Mom's time "away" usually happened when she went to meetings or was out with friends or something -- which is no less "dangerous" a scenario than travelling alone, really.

As for #8, what about marriage counseling?

I think that the "commandments" might be slightly different for different couples. So when you ask if they're good for any pfh -- my short answer is no. But there are some good ideas there, and the basic gist comes close to a more encompassing contract.

djsamwise November 3 2006, 15:56:12 UTC

The whole list sounds good.
Sign me up!

Er.. I mean with Kara. hehe.
I've told several of my guy friends that if I ever start to seriously waver.. like making/accepting romantinc gestures from others, that if they would please punch me in the face to wake up I would be most appreciative.

knotty_pine November 3 2006, 17:29:38 UTC

Not really. Pastors are held to a higher standard; while we normal people are to avoid the appearance of sin, pastors need to avoid the appearance of the possibility of a chance of sin ( ... )

zionchild November 5 2006, 19:34:29 UTC

We've got this urge as humans to set down rules, and rules suck. Even Christ himself was against them. He came in the midst of a bunch of pharasaical idiocy and reduced a metric crapton of fence laws to two rules that were intentionally vague. This sort of a contract is only good for one thing, and that's keeping record of wrong. The loving thing would be to keep up communication even when it seems redundant ( ... )