This is fucking epic

[fierceawakening]

and I love it.

I'm not as fond of the song as I am of other songs of hers, but the concept? Goddamn.

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I have to say here how glad I am to have a fabulously kickass femme friend in my life to show me wonderful, wonderful stuff like this. HELL YES, WITH SPARKLES.

On that note I've been seeing rather a bit of nastiness aimed at feminine people lately,

Comments

[niyazi_a]

I suggest that my post was misrepresented to you. I have no problem with feminine women (or feminine men for that matter, but that opens up this idea of what 'feminine' really is and I don't want to go there). I have no beef with glitter pretty. If anything I have issues with shallow materialism that tries to tell women that ALL they are is their looks. Or worse, not even their looks but their wardrobe.

Lady Gaga is a perfect example: She controls the pretty. It does not control her. Compare her with...say...Diane. One of my students, a former stripper. The pretty controlled her, opening her up to exploitation and, in her case, abuse. At the age of 25, she's 'washed up' and has no future....in that line of work. Glitter is wonderful, but seeing only the surface can hide a lot of darkness.

[fierceawakening]

Okay uh... I didn't have access to your post, so I can't really talk about that unless I can respond directly to what people actually said. So.

What I can say is that I get tired of it when my friends have to prove, over and over, that they control their lives just so that someone won't disdain them for their lipstick or outfits or makeup or whatever it is.

I don't get why that kind of gatekeeping helps any women, including those women who (like you and me) are unfeminine and get flack for it.

[fierceawakening]

And I can't say how many strippers are "controlled by the pretty," as I don't know most of them. And the ones I do know are the ones who pretty much have their shit together, so I can't speak to those who don't. But I can say that I do really wonder whether it's the draw of the pretty that explains the situation of women who do have horrible experiences in sex work. My guess would be -- and this is a guess -- that those women are likely less intrigued by sparkly and more in need of money.

But I don't know, not being them.

[niyazi_a]

Of course it's for the money: I have students who dance for music videos or in non-strip clubs. For the money and what they think will lead to a full time career. The latter aim has never come true. They get the money, way less than they should be paid because they're not trained dancers and it's all under the table. And when next month's crop of girls comes up or they put on a few pounds...they discover that they didn't have that much power at all, when the callbacks stop coming

[erin_c_1978]

WORD. While current USAan culture certainly devalues the feminine, it seems to me that to say, "OK then, anyone who acts feminine is devaluing themselves!" is basically giving in to the assholes and letting them define the terms of what's worthwhile. It's a trend in feminism that I find ridiculously counterproductive. Bring on the fucking sparkles.

[neonstilettos]

While current USAan culture certainly devalues the feminine, it seems to me that to say, "OK then, anyone who acts feminine is devaluing themselves!"

I've never met you before, but I like the way you think. That's a very succinct way to sum up that bass-ackwards non-logic: "women should be empowered and free of oppression... unless they're too feminine, then they're just clueless [insert sexual slur of choice here] who need to shut up and learn their place." *headkeyboard x infinity*

[sentso]

This is all very interesting to read. I don’t think I’ve ever noticed it before, which makes me question if my personal distaste for (general) LOOKATMEI’MDAZZLING is really me having the opinion that it’s just effing gauche attention whoring, or if I’m just TOLD it’s effing gauche attention whoring

"no srsly i heard it on alex jones"

[amblinwiseass]

get a load of this -- Did You Know? Lady Gaga is in fact a mind-controlled slave of the Illuminati, having been brainwashed through the CIA's MK-ULTRA program (actually a department of MK-ULTRA called Project Monarch) to serve as an assassin-slash-sex-toy automaton on command. TRUE FACT.