I am from the Canadian prairies where this is custom. I think it is the most tacky thing possible and am glad I come from a family who also thinks this. The wedding party plans this huge party at a community hall and charges for entrance and alcohol and then uses the profits to fund the wedding. I loathe these events and hate being invited to them.
I can't believe that in this day and age people still have to ask if it's appropriate to ask upfront for money as a wedding gift, a baby shower gift, a graduation gift, or any other kind of gift. She doesn't want a gravy boat? Fucking deal with it, that might be all somebody can afford. It's not up to your friends and family to jump start your bank account.
I was being slightly sarcastic, but you probably know what I mean. There are some people who aren't very practical, and think that money will just fall from the sky once they decide to spawn.
"We'll looooooooove the baaaaaaby," they say.
Those are the people I don't understand -- and don't want to understand.
I registered at the Bay, and when you register they give you little calendars and pamphlets ect... full of advice. One thing they mention: oh it is TOTALLY appropriate to put the registry info in the invitation
I think it depends on how it's done. A couple I know got married after living together for years. They'd bought a house, had everything they needed - getting new toasters and stuff would be pointless. They asked for gift vouchers for a big hardware/gardening place so they could do their garden. I didn't have any problem with that - I thought it was pretty practical.
And am I the only person in the entire world who wants to kill people who refer to their partner as "the boy"? Man, I hate that.
Doing something like that wouldn't bother me nearly as much. That's not as bad as asking for money to pay the bills or to pay for the wedding.
And at least you know the money is going to something lasting. And for people like me, who refuse to give cash or vouchers, you can still go to a gardening place -- or shop elsewhere -- to buy gardening products, seeds or tools. (Thinking about it, I could really have fun making a basket for that.)
I think that if the girl in question is under seventeen, referring to her partner as 'The Boy' is perfectly acceptable.
For instance, I refer to my boyfriend as 'The Prick' within the context of the internet. I'm not comfortable, and I suspect he isn't as well, with displaying his given name to strangers - and it gets tiresome to type out 'my boyfriend' over and over again.
But, yeah, in communities when a simple phrase like 'my boyfriend/lover/fiance/wild, scandalous affair partner/seventeenth husband' would suffice, it's better.
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Makes those of us who are livin' on love and breastmilk with no handouts a little peeved.
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"We'll looooooooove the baaaaaaby," they say.
Those are the people I don't understand -- and don't want to understand.
Love doesn't pay the bills.
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*headdesk*
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And am I the only person in the entire world who wants to kill people who refer to their partner as "the boy"? Man, I hate that.
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And at least you know the money is going to something lasting. And for people like me, who refuse to give cash or vouchers, you can still go to a gardening place -- or shop elsewhere -- to buy gardening products, seeds or tools. (Thinking about it, I could really have fun making a basket for that.)
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For instance, I refer to my boyfriend as 'The Prick' within the context of the internet. I'm not comfortable, and I suspect he isn't as well, with displaying his given name to strangers - and it gets tiresome to type out 'my boyfriend' over and over again.
But, yeah, in communities when a simple phrase like 'my boyfriend/lover/fiance/wild, scandalous affair partner/seventeenth husband' would suffice, it's better.
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