My Thoughts...

[cissyann]

I really enjoy reading the posts in this community every morning. I have really learned alot about caring for chihuahuas, things to look for and I also love seeing the super cute pics. I have been a little disturbed by some of the bickering that seems to go on lately.
One of the reasons I have followed this site for so long is that there hasn't

Comments

[midnight_d]

I don't think that people were replying to her as if she was personally running a puppymill. That is deffinitely exaggerating what happened. People replied to her and told her that buying a puppy off the side of the road isn't a good idea and gave her GOOD reasons why. Buying a puppy off the side of the road is NOT a good idea, and anyone with half a brain and some education on the subject would agree. I feel like I was perfectly nice to the girl, I want to help her. Because now that she has the dog, it should be taken care of as well as possible

[lovehustle]

sure sometimes people can come off a bit harsh, but all of it is done with good intentions, and i think many people forget that.

which is exactly what i said! "Excuse some of the ladies here, they are always a bit catty & rude -- but only mean well :)" finally we can agree on something ;D

[midnight_d]

I think saying that people "are a bit catty and rude" was a bit catty and rude. You could have reworded it and said "sometimes people come off a bit harsh, but mean well" it would have gotten your point accross and sounded a lot less bitchy/unnaccepting of good advise.

[lovehustle]

if you feel you have to butcher my words, feel free...

For the future, please don't purchase dogs off the side of the road.

That could have been said alot better, "it would have gotten your point accross and sounded a lot less bitchy/unnaccepting.."

Seriously, if you don't like it you CAN leave.
As is said often, if you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen.

oh yes, I'm sure you could have reworded that and sounded alot less bitchy :]

[cissyann]

Well, I guess my post sure stirred up a lot of replies. I appreciate those who remind me just to ignore the drama and that the people who respond harshly haven't changed yet and probably aren't going to. I just got a little fed up at seeing new people who were so excited about having a new chihuahua and joining the community get slammed. Someone mentioned referring to people as "children" which I did not do. I said I felt some of the responses were immature - that is my opinion and I stick to it. Like the poster who hated to point out her age I hate to sound old, but over the years I've seen the level of politeness expected in my generation become a way of the past. In regards to the comment that I should have taken this to the moderator, I didn't know that. I am not that blog savvy and I had to go back and read the rules several times to understand what you were talking about. I don't even understand some of the terminology in the rules. (What the heck is a troll? Does it live under a bridge?) If I acted inappropriately I apologize

[midnight_d]

A troll is someone who purposely goes into a community/forum/messageboard just to stir up trouble.

[wizba]

Oh yes because these replies were really harsh

*rolls eyes*

Seriously, I think your, and many of the OMG you guyz are MEANZ type people's, ideas of rude/harsh/etc are seriously in need of some readjustment. Telling someone what reality is, that isn't harsh/rude/etc, that is reality. Sometimes reality is harsh, but that doesn't mean the person that tells them it is...just means they are a realist.

You can treat a person with compassion and dignity and still tell them the truth. Obviously, people that have had their feelings hurt on here so badly were doing something perhaps dangerous or bad and decided to ignore that and just go with the OMG you are meanz!

If you really had better things to do with your time why make this post? Gee...I know, to be a troll.

If you seriously find these replies disturbing, then I fear for you in the real world...seriously.

These types of post are EXACTLY why this icon was made.

[midnight_d]

LOL @ Meanz!

[into_focus]

Hmm, that sounded harsher then intended. I think 14 hours of work/classes have made me bitter...

[kelkie]

someone makes a mistake or a bad decision and instead of it being pointed out in a helpful way - that person is attacked.

just a thought - if someone posted about buying a puppy on a whim off the side of the road and not being able to pay for its vet care, and we responded with civil, polite comments, i think the seriousness of the situation would be undermined. by responding somewhat harshly, but with helpful advice, i think it gets people's points across moreso than if they didn't. maybe by reading our comments this girl will think before buying an animal so impulsively next time. it's NOT okay that she did this without being able to properly care for the dog, and hopefully by reading our responses she'll get that. she said she wanted to "rescue" the dog, but buying a puppy that she cannot provide basic vet care for is definitely not a rescue in my mind.

[rozae]

Hey. Just letting you know that we've closed this discussion down. While it's a worthy discussion, many cannot seem to participate like adults. Thanks for understanding.

I posted in the post your talking about and

[star_light_]

uhm, i was one of the first people who said something and if you read my statement I was really nice, I didnt attack her, i told her of the possible problems but also was NICE and told her congrats on the dog, and asked her what color the dog was.

I think its quite RUDE of you to write something like this in here, making someone like me feel bad for saying something I thought was constructive. Id love for you to personally tell me WHAT I said exactly to get YOU personally so upset. Its kind of ridiculous as Ive never been someone whos mean or rude to anyone and it hurts me to think that people think that of me.

[rozae]

This discussion is over. Also, the OP has deleted her journal and will not see any replies.