characters in the story of my life: present and past

[belenen]

icon: "shows -- xena happiness (Xena and Gabrielle looking at each other and smiling as they walk)"

It had been 2 years so it was way past time for an update. I didn't include all of the people from before but those are still available via tags *smiles*
If you're wondering what spirit-kin, heart-kin, soul-kin or mind-kin mean (or -twin, the

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[ragnarok_08]

I love this post <3

[belenen]

*beams*

[feladrone]

"And because of their own focus on life as a whole, and their own passion for individuality, I feel like I can focus on what matters to only me for the first time while in an intense romantic relationship. I feel like when we go away from each other we do pine, but we also get shit done and when we come back together we have so much to share."

Wow, that is inspiring for me to read! I really, really hope I can have a romantic relationship like that some day.

I always hear about couples that are so attached, do everything together, make huge sacrifices for each other... and I honestly don't think I could ever handle that. I need independence. I don't want to have to run every decision by my partner, I want to be able to do what I want when it's important. (And I would want my partner to do whatever they wanted when it was important to them, too. I would feel awful if they didn't do something they wanted to because of me.) I'm not in a relationship and never have been, but I've been worried that this will be an issue for me in the

[belenen]

Honestly this is an attitude I have never found among monogamous people, but only among people who are polyamorous or relationship anarchists. Even if I only wanted to be with one person, I couldn't deal ever again with that stifling need for blending personhood. I want to remain myself, and I want those I am with to remain their selves, and I want to create bonds that exist because we nourish each other. I don't want bonds that come out of having carved ourselves to fit each other such that we can no longer be a whole person alone.

So, to find people who want to be independent WITH you, I would look for polyamorous people.

(waves)

[raidingparty]

I'm not sure whether your definition is by beliefs or by practice, but I have almost always had monogamous relationships, and I'd describe my partner and myself more as "in parallel" than "overlapping". We have our own stuff and different friends and even have alone time every so often. And of course we do a lot together as well.
Internally, I'd say I am poly-interested; I've never practiced, I think it could be bad for me in some ways (and I know I have some work to do about self-image) and good for me in others. But my partner is very strictly pair-bonding, and I'm happy with what we have, so I'm not making any more romantic connections.

[queerbychoice]

Yay! I love what you said about me! <3

[belenen]

yay! :D

[cactus_rs]

<3

This is such a thoughtful post: both for the new readers but also for all of the kind words for everyone featured!

[belenen]

glad you enjoyed it!

[z8z8]

I just wanted to thank you for describing the pictures, and your icons.
That shows a lot of consideration for someone like myself who happens to be blind :)

[belenen]

Yay! I am glad that it feels considerate to you. I feel like I have gotten much better at writing image descriptions now. Feel free to give me feedback anytime, or let me know if there is a part of the image you are wondering about, stuff like that.