tribe: what I want, ideally and second best

[belenen]

Heather described to me what ze thought was the opposite of what I wanted and it was pretty much exactly what I wanted so I thought I'd clarify

Comments

[classical_wolf]

I loved reading about this. I find the concept of a tribe to be very interesting :)

[belenen]

:D

[belenen]

I wonder sometimes if I'm just bad at the whole being-a-person deal... I think maybe most people are happier with more surface connections than I'm satisfied with.

YES. Most people are happy with surfacey stuff and also, this shit is not easy to find! I mean, I was alone -- while searching -- for YEARS and I definitely felt like something was wrong with me but really, our society just produces people who have never been nurtured and cannot connect on a deep level on about a 100-to-1 (at least) rate. So, yeah.

I don't really like game night or movie night because I don't like most of the games and movies that exist, but since it would be good for most people I'd be happy to participate.

I want a group of people who care about being supportive and kind and loving, and creating a space that is safe and comfortable for everyone.

YES.

I would love to have everyone interconnected and I hope you can get to know everyone more and they can get to know you. <3 Abby and Heather and Zawn post the most on LJ (besides me). Roger and

[belenen]

I like word games and get-to-know you or prove-you-know-me or pattern-strategy games (Wise and Otherwise, Malarky, Loaded Questions, Imaginiff, Blokus, IceTowers). On the computer I pretty much like GuildWars2 and that's it. Most people I know like Settlers but I Do Not. I could probably get into D&D/Mage/similar RPGs, I played Mage for a very little while and liked it a lot.

I think rextrocular (Abby), topaznebula (who doesn't post), rmpenguino (who also doesn't post) are the only ones you don't have friended yet who actually have LJs.

[blimeyzawn1]

First of all, I think this sounds fabulous and wonderful, and is pretty much exactly what I want. Given financial considerations, though, I think it's pretty impossible to have a tribe in the traditional sense -- where everyone lives basically next door to one another. But a very close-knit group that sees each other super regularly? Yeah, I see no reason that can't happen. I mean, most people have that in grade school/high school, so why couldn't it be possible in adulthood

[belenen]

Oh, yeah, I always want people to bring the people who are important to them. That's my 'criteria' -- if they are important to you then it is important to me to know them. If they are a person I feel is unsafe, then I want to know them someplace other than my house, but I'm okay with going out of my way to meet them. I agree that an open tribe is the way to go.

I would love love love if more people planned events and brought people that mattered to them with me and my people. I would super love to meet your people! There are a good chunk of self-described introverts in my tribe though so I think they'd want to meet you first ;-)

[secret_keep]

I really think it's possible to have tribe way closer than 20 miles together. Like, while next door is probably impossible/unreachable, there's a ton of houses on my street for sale or rent that are relatively cheap, and then places up the road a few miles that are fancier and more expensive, and then everyone could live within five miles of each other... and I don't think that that's an isolated example. I think that we could all live close to each other in the Atlanta area. We couldn't live in like, midtown or buckhead, but it seems like almost everywhere else has both rich and poor places to move in, so it would be compatible with everyone.

Anika, I added you on facebook and on here I think. :) I'm adding you to my "safe" filter too (most of my posts are either public or "safe" filtered; the safe ones are about feels, especially shame)

Bel, I want so much for you to live in the city <3 and Topaz too, but it seems likely that she'll (she? I don't remember Topaz's pronouns) live in that house forever. But it's close to the

[belenen]

Yeah I would love that, to live within 5 miles of each other (btw, I said 20 MINUTES not miles, heh, minutes is a lot closer).

I don't think that Topaz will move into the city but I think we could find a section of town that was 20-30 min from zir place instead of 45. My ideal would be on the northwest quad of Atlanta but the northeast would do also.

btw LJ doesn't notify you of more comments unless you reply to that specific person, so Anika would only see this if ze happened to come to this post again and read them all -- letting you know for future reference!

[belenen]

that's Kylei ;-)

[belenen]

<3 <3 I feel it and it makes me happy! and I am so glad you want to build with me, and are investing without hesitation <3 I can't even describe how much it means.