awful week: sick, financial stress, feeling loss, ex being cruel / feeling lonely, untrusting, angry

[belenen]

Comments

[oceanid]

*hugs* :( I'm sorry for the pain you are currently going through, it hurts me to know you are so sad :(

If you were comfortable sending me your postage address, I'd really love to send you a card~ It's not much, but my cards are handmade and made with love :)

[belenen]

*hugs back* thank you so much ♥ You can find my info in the first post here: http://belenen.livejournal.com/tag/contact+info That is such a sweet offer ♥

[jenniology]

*sends you loving thoughts* I'm in a pretty dark spot myself right now, but I'm sorry for your pain and I'd like to help any way I can. I'm here, okay?

[belenen]

thank you so much lovey ♥ *hugs*

[celestialsight]

I am sorry you are hurting right now. I hope things start looking up again real soon. *hugs*

[belenen]

thank you Kat ♥ *hugs back*

[jendaby]

***Enormous hugs

[belenen]

*many hugs back*

I think for me gift-giving is really focused on two things: showing that I know the person and that I like what I know (by getting them something that is uniquely them), and providing something that makes a little reminder of how they're known and loved, and wrapping it up specially. I wouldn't get the same feeling from giving actions like that -- and yes, my gift-giving is mainly to bring ME happiness, I quite readily admit it (if people gave me money to spend on them (as a present to me), I think that would make me really gleeful). I might find some way to make a little gesture of love, though, because even something impersonal as a stand-in might help make this time feel more like Christmas.

Thanks so much for sharing your ideas and care ♥

[queerbychoice]

Take some time to congratulate yourself for what you've accomplished: you recognized that the ex wasn't there for you, and you stopped wasting your effort on zir. That's a huge accomplishment; many people spend their whole lives remaining in terrible relationships. Lack of financial resources is one major, very common factor that keeps people in such relationships, and the fact that you still escaped, even with your lack of financial resources, makes your accomplishment even more impressive.

[belenen]

Thank you so much for this; it was really bracing and encouraging. *hugs*