Hi, I've been lurking for some time.

[fueschgast]

First: categories. I like categories, mostly. Because if you have categories you can just say its name and don't have to waste time and energy trying to explain things. And categories give you a place. It's nice to be part of something, but I tend to worry if I really belong in some categories. If I'm doing it right and stuff

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[fueschgast]

Sorry that I'm only replying now. Sometimes it takes me some time to get in the mood talk about stuff.

Hypersexualized culture, hm, you're right. I never really noticed that. Well, I did, but ...not that consciously. I don't know, hard to explain.
Anyway, it's good that we're freer (okay, that looks wrong, is that how you spell 'more free'?) with that now, but it also makes it look like that's a standard and everyone who doesn't fit it isn't normal. I know, being normal isn't that important. I'm usually proud of not being normal. But some things just make me feel like someone's gonna point and go "OMG, YOU FREAK!"

[slina_elvellon]

I'm a lot like that, too. I care about how guys look, of course, and I naturally think that some look better than others, but I'm hardly going to start crushing on random guy or celebrity just because I think he's hot. Usually I don't even care about how hot/sexy guys are so long as I think they look okay, so I really don't get why so many girls are constantly gushing over how hot/sexy/whatever certain guys are. I'd much rather like an actor (or whoever) because he has a cool personality, or is really good, or something. For example, one of my favorite actors right now happens to be David Tennant; I'm very aware of how many of his fans think he's super sexy or something, but I honestly don't see it. I just love his acting, and from what little I know of him, he seems like a pretty cool sort of person (that, and I love his Tenth Doctor

[fueschgast]

Ooh, David Tennant. You know, at first I didn't know what was so great about him, he looks just normal. But then I got into Doctor Who and now I understand. Gotta love his acting! And I adore his geekiness.

Hi!

[old_cutter_john]

Welcome to the community!

Writing, as a medium of expression, has inherent limitations. The most obvious is that it's linear. Most people accept that and adapt to it. Or they don't write. You don't seem to have accepted it - at least not yet - and you're writing anyway. It came out remarkably good, considering. And it reminds me that during the early years of my life I talked mostly in monosyllables because I couldn't accept the limitations of the medium of ordinary speech. There's not a whole lot of understanding in the mental health community of why so many of us are nonverbal

Re: Hi!

[fueschgast]

Sorry that I'm only replying now. Sometimes it takes me some time to get in the mood talk about stuff.

I don't know if the problem I have is with the limitations of writing, I accept those. I'm trying to adapt, but the problem is that I have limitations. And that writing is so important. One thing I hated about school is that we had to write essays. I always failed at them.

[aslanscountry]

For me it was an Aspie/developmental delay thing, I think. The idea of kissing really grossed me out, as did the idea of having sex to a lesser degree. I understood that I was gay because I knew I wanted some kind of closeness with a girl, but I really just wished I could hold hands with someone and have her be my girlfriend without having to do anything else

[fueschgast]

Sorry that I'm only replying now. Sometimes it takes me some time to get in the mood talk about stuff.

Well, I've always been behind a bit, but not that much. I'm 25, so I guess if it were developmental delay, the development would have happened by now.

Thank you for mentioning Wikipedia! I don't know when that was, but I've already read the article about asexuality. I haven't found it that helpful then. But you mentioned it and I went back to it and found the AVEN site that is linked there. This site answered my questions and I have really found my category now. :o)

[for_u_alone]

I'd been wanting to introduce this topic but couldn't work up the courage...
I've often wondered if this is related to Autism. I'm capable of lust -- though less and less now. Even when I do get some enjoyment from sex, I feel very unsettled afterwards, like in a suspense thriller where they film the scene at an odd angle. It leaves me feeling very empty and displaced, almost like a feeling of homesickness. Actually, just being naked gives me that feeling. I can't really explain it.