Over it.

[apophantic]

I vented to a good friend tonight after a moment of realization, yielding the following conclusion

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[dragynflies]

Dude, I have been there and serious props to you for deciding to say no.

I used to drop everything to go pick up my friend's three kids anytime she needed me -- I spent so much time and money on those kids -- and out of no where, she moves to NY, and hasn't spoken to me since.

I know exactly how you feel and how much it sucks to always try to give and then when you need something, you just get kicked in the face.

I'm sorry you have to deal with roommate issues on top of friend issues -- and it's worse when the two are one and the same. I sometimes get lonely living alone but I had crappy crappy roommates in undergrad and I'd rather be lonely sometimes than put up with the shit I went through fresh/soph year of college.

I'm on MSN all the time if you ever wanna talk! :)

[apophantic]

thanks hun! *hugs*

[gublers]

*hugs*
im sorry ppl are taking advantage of you.. I know how itt feels, trust me. it sux. Just know that you are an awesome friend, and if those ppl cant see how great you are, then mayb they just dont deserve to have you in their lives.

[apophantic]

thanks, izza, it's much appreciated :)

[gublers]

:) am trying

[apophantic]

are succeeding :) *hugs*

shakes head

[lolasenvy]

I don't get it, I just don't.

But I feel you, and I wish I could do something to make you feel better. I remember when I was there just being stunned by their mean-spirited bitchiness and was gobsmacked by it.

I tell you, if I had someone as wonderful as you in my day to day life, I would never miss an opportunity to tell them how much I love and appreciate them. It is unacceptable that they fail to do it once, let alone the epic failure of never doing it.

That's the thing about selfish and toxic people. They never realize what they have because they are all take and seldom give. As I opened, I simply do not understand it. I was only with you a week, and I miss it.

Just know that you are loved and thought of, try not to let people too foolish to cherish you get you down, and if you need anything do not hesitate to ask.

Re: shakes head

[apophantic]

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this, especially at this point in your life. I really appreciate your thoughts. *HUGS*

Re: shakes head

[lolasenvy]

I'm never too occupied for a friend. :)

part 1 (I got cut off!)

[kait_rn]

(sorry this is all disorganzied...I keep cutting and pasting and thinking of more things to add. I was also a bit overwhelmed in answering ebcause it SUCKS

part 2

[kait_rn]

More thoughts on that... First of all, I'm not NEARLY as nice as you. I'm nice, but I somehow I don't usually get taken advantage of (umm, except for that like, one, HUGE 7-year thing *eyeroll*) If I feel I'm being taken advantage of, I retreat pretty damn quick and that's that. If I were you, I'd DEFINITELY do the above, maybe mentally keep a casual "list" in my head about who deserves you and who doesn't. And it's not obviously tit-for-tat, I don't meant to sound black and white (ie, if someone forgets your birthday it's not "That's it, YOU'RE out!") but more like, in general...if someone shows a pattern of not giving a shit when you do something for them, they're out. It sounds to me like E is definitely out. And WTF is with the "you don't have guests over much anyway" shit?! Umm HAI, we're not necessarily in a relationship all the time, and just because you are and want to brag about it...that's just LAME. A year from now, she could be single and you could be in a great relationship. Most people aren't in a relationship

Re: part 2

[apophantic]

First, I LOVE that you ran out of room--that's so *you,* it's amazing

Re: part 2

[kait_rn]

Oh...you didn't sound like a martyr, not at all! You sounded like a person who DOES give (this is not the first entry, you've written since I've KNOWN you about people calling you and asking/you giving advive) and you'd just had it up to HERE. You didn't sound whiny, not at all! I was in fact proud of you, for coming to this realization!!

And I'm GLAD the vomit-er send you a note!!! Even so, I ttly!!! think tweaking is a good idea.

Re: part 2

[apophantic]

thanks, hun! and, interestingly, it wasn't the vomiter!! lol, it was the bday girl's house where the vomiting occurred! but the vomiter (at a push from the bday girl) did apologize and thank me. :)