Since just fading into obscurity isn't my style either.

[apiphile]

Choosing to end a 10 year friendship is, regardless of the propaganda on the other side of the fence, not easy. I would rather it didn't END, but my sanity does not cope well with hiatus. Either it's finished, or it's not finished; limbo doesn't suit me. Determining to do so without "trying" to save it is presumably going to be cast as callous and

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[crotalus_atrox]

Oh. I should have come here first instead of tumblr.

What do you have to say? I remember your warning about the new friends, and it is something I considered. But aside from that, you stopped talking to me. You just stopped. I do not like limbo either. Talk to me instead? I'll get on gchat. You can email me. Tell me what you have to say.

I am not going to give any propaganda about you or tell anyone "how could she" or "she is so hateful.". All I've said to people is "she stopped talking to me, I don't know why, I want her back." If this is how you want us to end, it will be clean and I won't cause you any trouble.

You are wanted. You are ridiculously wanted.

[apiphile]

When you go back to normal, give some sign that you're going to listen to people who know what they're talking about, or that this ... ungood obsessive behaviour ... is going away, I will come back. But right now this is too similar to things I've done for me to think you're going to listen when I try to help. I'd rather wait it out.

[coniferous_you]

Well, sometimes it's just nice to have closure.

I have friends I haven't spoken to in years, and I know that I'll run into them again someday and it'll be back to normal. Other friends have really gone off the rails and are like toxic poisons, so those ropes need to be cut. It just depends on you, and how you feel about it, I think. Some friendships don't need a whole lot of tending, and some do.

someone who is needed but not wanted

I can relate. But sometimes that is the bane of being a genuine human being.

Either way, I hope it works out for you and that the end result is something that you want.

[apiphile]

Mostly when they get like this I just up and leave, but this one has been very, very important and I don't think I can just burn that bridge. The problem is that I really do not want to sit through what's happening at the moment, either, and it's left me squirming and trapped and really pissed off.

[coniferous_you]

Yeah, I can understand that. One of my sisters started getting like this after she graduated high-school and that bothered me because my family is pretty close, but I did mostly cut her out even if doing so fully would be logistically impossible. It only really fixed itself a few weeks ago when I got an e-mail that said: "hey, can you help me with my resume?" I decided that this was as close as I would ever get to "sorry I ditched my family for yet another deadbeat guy," so I did what was asked and things are somewhat better now.

So hopefully the whole thing comes around for you. I'm sure what everyone is saying is entirely correct when they say it'll work out, but of course that doesn't help while you're on the other end.

[a_carnal_mink]

Why am I reminded of that crazy time when one of my closest friends got into a cult?

[apiphile]

Because the behaviour is almost exactly the same. Sadly she's not in a cult, she's cunt-struck (well, technically cock-struck) which is much more socially acceptable and therefore most of her new friends don't care about the personality 180 she's done.