Grumpy pants beware of the blood nut

[ant_farm]

I am hurt. It seems I only write when I am feeling a bit blue or angry. Oh well I need to vent and no one seems to be listening at the moment. Last week I was feeling really overwhelmed with all of my friends going through major shit. Sometimes I have a habbit of feeling like I need to fix all my friends problems. I know this is totally imposible.

Comments

[joandirk]

I think trivia nights sound like fun, and a great easy way to bring your friends together.

I hope life at uni gets better. Unfortunately, I have no advice on stupid boys. Just that sometimes boys are stupid.

[ant_farm]

Yeah uni is usually okay I was just letting things get to me because I was feeling insecure about other areas of my life. Trying to be everthing for everyone and that is just impossible. Yeah trivia will be fun, it means I can catch up with people and have fun on a superficial level with out having my whole life consumed with dinner dates, and deep and meaningfuls.

[ant_farm]

Yeah I am coming to terms with how guys interact with me. I find it slightly confusing because I am used to being the "ugly" friend. Guys are usually falling over themselves to gawk at whoever my close female friend is. I am usually just one of the guys, in the projection room. I know the attention is just because I am one of the few females. I am just not used to feeling uncomfortable in that sense. I just don't know how to interact with a lot of my male friends because, when I pretend like I am one of the boys I get too much information and when I act like a girl my tits are stared at.

I guess I am just lucky that none of them are actually interesting to me sexually because that would just be a total disaster. I would never be able to sleep with any of them, because I would never be able to live it down.

[look_a_unicorn]

Boys are stupid, yairs most certainly

[ant_farm]

lol, what a response

[look_a_unicorn]

"I by no means think men are idiots. "

You should. We're human. Humans wander between periods of competance and stupidity :)

"I think quite a few 18 year old engineering students, haven't talked to many girls and don't really know appropriate ways to behave"

Correct!

"older students 22-30 that are quite socially adept that every now and then do something that confuses me"

And themselves...

"beginning to understand the "sexual curiosity" is just inherent"

The only really important point i was trying to make :)

"I agree it probably has a great deal to do with possessive girlfriends"
Yes and no. To counterpoint my own argument, my girlfriend isn't possessive & yet due to changes in my working and social situation I have only VERY rarely seen anyone but her for over a year. I quite literally have to make time to see other friends.
Or to put it another way, as you (or your vanishing friends) move from uni -> full time work all the potential for casually bumping into friends or just hanging out dwindles to none quite rapidly.

[ant_farm]

lol ok, yeah so really my intial journal entry was a rather fair and balanced assessment. Some people have possessive girlfriends and others just get busy when they are in realationships. My female friends must rate me higher than my male friends because they still see me frequently when they are entrenched in all aspects of relationships. men are as idiotic as all humans. Isn't that just a given :)They just have gender specific ways of expressing that.

I don't rate humans very highly but thats a whole other problem.

Understanding how to best relate to people meaning men in large groups is something new to me. I just want to be able to get my head around the best way to feel comfortable and secure. I rely on friendships alot, because I suck at intimate relationships. There is a feminist part of me that just reacts and gets upset when I am being objectified. I don't know if this is justifiable however it is my reaction.

ps LJ is telling me to wish you a happy birthday.