Grumpy pants beware of the blood nut
I am hurt. It seems I only write when I am feeling a bit blue or angry. Oh well I need to vent and no one seems to be listening at the moment. Last week I was feeling really overwhelmed with all of my friends going through major shit. Sometimes I have a habbit of feeling like I need to fix all my friends problems. I know this is totally imposible.
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I by no means think men are idiots.
I think quite a few 18 year old engineering students, haven't talked to many girls and don't really know appropriate ways to behave.
I think the majority of my confusion has arisen from older students 22-30 that are quite socially adept that every now and then do something that confuses me.
I guess its nice to know that I am not totally fugly :) I have had some trouble recently with one of close male friends who liked my sexual psyche but wasn't available to me physically. I think this one of the reasons I feel slightly confused by the behavior of some of my male friends. I guess I am beginning to understand the "sexual curiosity" is just inherent but not malicious or even carrying sexual intent.
As far as the honeymoon period is concerned, I guess thats what I mean by get busy. But my second hypothesis I was referring to goes far beyond that. I have friends who are on again off again with girlfriends that disappear and friends that reappear every few years after a break up. I agree it probably has a great deal to do with possessive girlfriends.
Hey was it you that was in IT?
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"I by no means think men are idiots. "
You should. We're human. Humans wander between periods of competance and stupidity :)
"I think quite a few 18 year old engineering students, haven't talked to many girls and don't really know appropriate ways to behave"
Correct!
"older students 22-30 that are quite socially adept that every now and then do something that confuses me"
And themselves...
"beginning to understand the "sexual curiosity" is just inherent"
The only really important point i was trying to make :)
"I agree it probably has a great deal to do with possessive girlfriends"
Yes and no. To counterpoint my own argument, my girlfriend isn't possessive & yet due to changes in my working and social situation I have only VERY rarely seen anyone but her for over a year. I quite literally have to make time to see other friends.
Or to put it another way, as you (or your vanishing friends) move from uni -> full time work all the potential for casually bumping into friends or just hanging out dwindles to none quite rapidly.
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I don't rate humans very highly but thats a whole other problem.
Understanding how to best relate to people meaning men in large groups is something new to me. I just want to be able to get my head around the best way to feel comfortable and secure. I rely on friendships alot, because I suck at intimate relationships. There is a feminist part of me that just reacts and gets upset when I am being objectified. I don't know if this is justifiable however it is my reaction.
ps LJ is telling me to wish you a happy birthday.
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