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Jul 21, 2004 21:10

I'm in a truly shitty situation. I have a three month old and a 5 year old. Afetr my 3 month old was born, my boyfriend and I had sex ONE TIME without a condom. And guess who's pregnant again. I can not have another baby. Even if I gave it up for adoption, which I don't think I could do, my boyfriend would leave me and my mother would throw me out ( Read more... )

medical vs. surgical abortion, anesthesia, recovery time after abortion, emotions after abortion, pain during abortion

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jessie_730 July 21 2004, 18:34:28 UTC

First of all, I'm very sorry that you have to go through this. It's normal to be scared- it's not exactly "fun" to have an abortion. But, before I had mine, I found that talking to other women who have had them helped me greatly in easing my fear. I'm more than happy to answer your questions ( ... )

aloneinanguish July 21 2004, 19:27:58 UTC

Thank you. I don't know if I'm having the same thing. They called it something curettage (I think suction curettage). My friend Nick told me to get knocked out for it because he said if I'm awake I will see everything, but I'm afraid I won't wake up. Did you have that fear? They said they generally give a valium beforehand, but if I feel high I get panic attacks. Plus, I'm not allowed to eat after midnight the night before, and I'm afraid I'll get sick.

Thank you for sharing your story with me.

jessie_730 July 22 2004, 05:27:06 UTC

I was a little nervous about being knocked out. But I'm so glad that I went that route. I believe they give a valium before only if you're just having local anesthesia- which means you're awake for the whole thing, they just numb your cervix. Personally, the thought of being awake for the whole thing scared the hell out of me, so even though I was nervous about the general anesthesia, I decided I'd rather be unaware of what's going on. What time is your appointment? Mine was at 8:30 am, so not eating after midnight wasn't really a big deal for me since I don't always eat breakfast anyway. You'll probably be too nervous to feel sick from hunger- I know I was.

aloneinanguish July 22 2004, 07:43:48 UTC

My appointment is at 9 am. I probably won't feel sick from hunger, but I'm nervous about the drugs making me sick.

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cailin_t July 21 2004, 19:52:02 UTC

After you had an abortion, how did you feel- emotionally and physically? emotionally, it was difficult for me simply because it was a stressful situation. physically, i was fine ( ... )

destinydai July 21 2004, 19:57:17 UTC

After you had an abortion, how did you feel- emotionally and physically? eh, i felt kind crappy, but it went away ( ... )

techieguru July 21 2004, 20:24:38 UTC

Did you have surgical or medical?

aloneinanguish July 21 2004, 22:58:29 UTC

I'm having surgical. I think they called it suction curettage. I'm nervous. Not even so much about the pain. I'm afraid I'm going to flip out afterwards. I already have two kids, I can't be going crazy and wanting to kill myself or anything, which I have heard of women doing because they feel so awful afterwards. But at the same time, I cant have another baby. The whole situation just sucks. I wish I would just have a miscarriage, as awful as that sounds. At least then I would have nothing to feel guilty about.

destinydai July 22 2004, 04:53:32 UTC

surgical - vacuum aspiration - the day before i went in for the ultrasound and a quick check up, but they didn't dilate my cervix before hand or anything.

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techieguru July 21 2004, 21:42:48 UTC

You may want to try posting to abortionstories as well. Best of luck to you, and remember - you're in good company.

puckish July 22 2004, 07:15:10 UTC

I agree with all the previous comments -- this is your decision and your body, and you have nothing to feel guilty about.

However, I wanted to mention that if your boyfriend would leave you simply because you became pregnant again, he doesn't sound like a very good person. Be careful.

aloneinanguish July 22 2004, 07:42:04 UTC

I now. Things have been rocky for a while. I have a feeling this is going to be the last straw- for both of us. I just really need him around while I'm going through it. Maybe that's selfish... I don't know.

eyelid July 22 2004, 11:18:34 UTC

Maybe that's selfish...

I don't see why it would be selfish to want him to at least support you through the abortion. It's his problem too!

puckish July 22 2004, 11:23:06 UTC

It's not selfish -- you're going through an emotional time, and it's natural to need someone for support. I just hope that he is willing to support you regardless of what you choose to do, that this isn't a "have an abortion or I'll dump you" situation. Remember, you are making the choice that is best for you (and your children), not necessarily for your boyfriend.