The good news is, I think us INFP's are very honest about our emotions, especially when asked. This also means we usually mean exactly what we say -- we aren't speaking from an agenda or expecting to renege later.
However, if we don't wish to share our feelings, then we don't like to be pressured. That's because we're feeling a lot and haven't decided how to filter it yet; you're right, we can be sensitive about not wanting to burden others even to the detriment of ourselves. We're good listeners, even to our own hearts. We're also healers and that can be taxing; it's not easy for us to tune out other people's feelings or "aura". So, we grow distant to find our true selves. The more painful the experience, the more inward we may become, because inside our heads it's a beehive of activity and exhausting work. We are protecting ourselves. We'd like you to really listen when we're finally ready to open up; don't dismiss or ignore
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I can't comment with anything directly useful, as somewhere between the two but with a stronger leaning to INFP. Since I actually saw this post, I figure I might as well answer my own personal response
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we're actually both borderline between FP and TP him having 68% feeling and me 58% thinking
"I don't show what I feel if I'm hurting. I just keep thinking about what it means to show what I feel and all the strings and implications attached if I do. I don't hide that I suffer very well, though, as a result. It all just spills over... probably because I'm too taxed to cover it up as well as I want to. The whole point is to not parade it to people so they feel obligated as nice people to do something for me when I feel they shouldn't,"
i do this too, but because i think i don't like to show weakness and vulnerability because i expect people to laugh or judge. sometimes i do it automatically and don't think a lot why. i also think it's because i'd rather focus on my feelings and thought patterns on my own to see what they tell me rahter than have a quick judgement from the outside (my sister is INTJ and while giving good advice and so on she comes off as not sensitive or understanding to me)
yes, he's divorcing someone else. we met after they separated and were in the process of divorcing and the whole thing has been slow to develop partly also because of my reluctance to end up as a rebound girl and trying to keep things slow. despite my better judgement i do slowly slowly probably start to fall for him
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However, if we don't wish to share our feelings, then we don't like to be pressured. That's because we're feeling a lot and haven't decided how to filter it yet; you're right, we can be sensitive about not wanting to burden others even to the detriment of ourselves. We're good listeners, even to our own hearts. We're also healers and that can be taxing; it's not easy for us to tune out other people's feelings or "aura". So, we grow distant to find our true selves. The more painful the experience, the more inward we may become, because inside our heads it's a beehive of activity and exhausting work. We are protecting ourselves. We'd like you to really listen when we're finally ready to open up; don't dismiss or ignore ( ... )
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"I don't show what I feel if I'm hurting. I just keep thinking about what it means to show what I feel and all the strings and implications attached if I do. I don't hide that I suffer very well, though, as a result. It all just spills over... probably because I'm too taxed to cover it up as well as I want to. The whole point is to not parade it to people so they feel obligated as nice people to do something for me when I feel they shouldn't,"
i do this too, but because i think i don't like to show weakness and vulnerability because i expect people to laugh or judge. sometimes i do it automatically and don't think a lot why. i also think it's because i'd rather focus on my feelings and thought patterns on my own to see what they tell me rahter than have a quick judgement from the outside
(my sister is INTJ and while giving good advice and so on she comes off as not sensitive or understanding to me)
thanks for your input
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Here are the cognitive processes I was talking about:
cognitiveprocesses dawt com/16Types/INTP dawt cfm
cognitiveprocesses dawt com/16Types/INFP dawt cfm
Good luck! I hope this helps!
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Ugh, never would've have worded this in such a way, but 100% true.
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