Personality redux

[raidingparty]

Wow! Yesterday’s post spawned way more discussion than I expected.Pollen count has passed 4000. Not sick yet, still waiting for Dragonball posts.I forgot about the Easter cake, that makes four.The disagreements I mentioned usually stick with me so much because either they strike at my core beliefs (as the critique did about my relative desirability

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[sentientjello]

That secretly-failing-at-being-a-grown-up feeling...I FEEL that. My hypothesis: you're only in your 30s (I forget your exact age). The majority of your memory is made up of being a child. So, 18/30 years, or 60% (maybe more if we include college, too. 22/30 or 73%) of your memories are about not being a grown up. Since you are, in large part, the sum of your memories, how could you feel like an adult? Maybe at some point when we're both over 50 and our adult memories outnumber our childhood ones, we'll feel like grown ups. Or at least, we won't remember not-feeling like grown ups because we're getting too old to remember everything anymore

[sentientjello]

Also, I think your list of qualities is reasonable. Not to be weird and talk about pets again, but...if you ever want to have pets, maybe add that too. "Likes animals"

[raidingparty]

I don't think social stuff wears me out quickly. I'm often the first and last at parties. Although there is something to that - I tend to be very goal-oriented in such situations, focusing on the dance or the game or whatever's right in front of me, rather than seeking out small talk.
And the rare times I organize outings, it's "Invite ALL THE PEOPLES". But that's rare. That's the other facet of it; I don't do much time management, and interacting with people (outside of work) now takes intention.
(One of the secret benefits of DMing - it's already agreed-upon so I don't have to invite people or change my schedule for it, and people just show up at my house.)

[horrormoviegeek]

As for are your nice things, they all seem reasonable. Things I would suggest pondering

[horrormoviegeek]

I have two other suggestions that apply to you specifically

[sentientjello]

About the transportation issue, agree. My husband and I have a couple-friend (really it's hub's friend and his fiancée) that lack reliable transportation. In Oklahoma, that's basically an impossible lifestyle choice; the cities are not designed for lack of car. 9 times out of 10, when this couple wants to get together, we nix it. Because we either have to go to some place they can walk to, limiting choice, or we have to pick them up...which sucks up time and annoys us, because its like we have to do EVERYTHING and they're not really that good at reciprocating favors. So...maybe think about budget for occasional car rental, or think of ways you might make a date feel like you're holding up your end of the relationship-effort spectrum

[raidingparty]

The car is a (pardon the pun) non-starter. I don't use it often enough for it to stay in working condition.
However, I can rent for when it's needed, and for seldom use, renting a BMW is cheaper (and more responsible for various reasons) than owning a lemon