Personality redux

[raidingparty]

Wow! Yesterday’s post spawned way more discussion than I expected.Pollen count has passed 4000. Not sick yet, still waiting for Dragonball posts.I forgot about the Easter cake, that makes four.The disagreements I mentioned usually stick with me so much because either they strike at my core beliefs (as the critique did about my relative desirability

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[raidingparty]

The car is a (pardon the pun) non-starter. I don't use it often enough for it to stay in working condition.
However, I can rent for when it's needed, and for seldom use, renting a BMW is cheaper (and more responsible for various reasons) than owning a lemon.
It's a potential drawback, I agree, but for the most part I don't think it's as important a factor as my not asking people out.

The cleanliness (you met Magdalena, right?) is actually one of the things about which I think my critic (and both of ye) are right, and want to change - both for organization and sanitary reasons. Maybe not up to bleach NAZI standards, but better. There are some difficulties in changing habits and my time management, but I think it is improving (albeit slowly).
The adorable absent-minded professor thing: I can see it as similar to the shoe-tying thing, in that it just isn't as much of a priority as all the other things I could be doing.
Something pointing in the cleanly direction, someone asked about roommating, and I mentally jumped towards making a chore list and talking about expectations with her. My current cohabitors are cleaner than the potheads, but they still leave stuff all over the place.

[raidingparty]

Oh, forgot to mention: I don't think the state of my home is dissuading anyone from dating me, because none of my potential dates are visiting my home.

Not that I shouldn't clean it up in case of that eventuality, of course, just that it's not currently a cause of singularity.

[sentientjello]

Frankly, I think occasionally renting a BMW makes a date seem special. It's not so much about having a car as it is about making a date feel like she's not always having to expend more effort than you.

Cleanliness habits can be difficult to change. I admit, I could happily spend 3-4 h on a weekend day, every week, scouring my house. That is unreasonable for most people. But looking at a messy kitchen or bathroom, especially, causes me indescribable levels of anxiety. My husband and I have found a happy medium where 3 weeks out of a month we spend about 30-45 minutes on a weekend tidying and cleaning, and then one weekend out of a month we spend 90 minutes deep cleaning. When we lived in a smaller place, it took even less time, obviously.

Just start small. Try for a full month to change and set a single habit before you add another. Example: wipe and disinfect the kitchen sink every Sunday morning, or whatever...Or get some hampers and presort your dirty laundry as you change clothes. Then it's harder to talk yourself out of doing it, because its something that literally takes 2 minutes of your time.