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Personality redux

Apr 10, 2013 17:40

Wow! Yesterday’s post spawned way more discussion than I expected.Pollen count has passed 4000. Not sick yet, still waiting for Dragonball posts.I forgot about the Easter cake, that makes four.The disagreements I mentioned usually stick with me so much because either they strike at my core beliefs (as the critique did about my relative desirability ( Read more... )

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horrormoviegeek April 11 2013, 13:16:02 UTC

As for are your nice things, they all seem reasonable. Things I would suggest pondering ( ... )

horrormoviegeek April 11 2013, 13:16:34 UTC

I have two other suggestions that apply to you specifically ( ... )

sentientjello April 11 2013, 13:44:42 UTC

About the transportation issue, agree. My husband and I have a couple-friend (really it's hub's friend and his fiancée) that lack reliable transportation. In Oklahoma, that's basically an impossible lifestyle choice; the cities are not designed for lack of car. 9 times out of 10, when this couple wants to get together, we nix it. Because we either have to go to some place they can walk to, limiting choice, or we have to pick them up...which sucks up time and annoys us, because its like we have to do EVERYTHING and they're not really that good at reciprocating favors. So...maybe think about budget for occasional car rental, or think of ways you might make a date feel like you're holding up your end of the relationship-effort spectrum ( ... )

raidingparty April 11 2013, 15:48:57 UTC

The car is a (pardon the pun) non-starter. I don't use it often enough for it to stay in working condition.
However, I can rent for when it's needed, and for seldom use, renting a BMW is cheaper (and more responsible for various reasons) than owning a lemon ( ... )

raidingparty April 11 2013, 15:50:40 UTC

Oh, forgot to mention: I don't think the state of my home is dissuading anyone from dating me, because none of my potential dates are visiting my home.

Not that I shouldn't clean it up in case of that eventuality, of course, just that it's not currently a cause of singularity.

sentientjello April 11 2013, 16:05:30 UTC

Frankly, I think occasionally renting a BMW makes a date seem special. It's not so much about having a car as it is about making a date feel like she's not always having to expend more effort than you ( ... )

Reading last year's posts... raidingparty January 2 2014, 17:58:17 UTC

The person I mentioned as a potential roommate and chore lists here? Turned into a lover instead. (Still working on merging the two.)

raidingparty April 11 2013, 16:02:01 UTC

1 - A few years probably works; sooner or later is fine by me, depending on her body and her needs. I would only be wary of her wanting to get pregnant right away if she was in terrible financial shape. Or was batshit crazy, of course.
2 - Mono-only ladies is a terrible phrase.
3 - I have considered the possibility of being too busy, and pondered how well a partner would fit. Doing all the things together isn't really a requirement for me... D&D and tango aren't even really requirements. At the moment I'm thinking once a week. We'll have to renegotiate terms and merge schedules when we get so crazy that we have to touch each other all the time.
Of course my ideal partner would be interested in all the same things, but I'm a little more realistic than that. And some interests can be learned...

(See car and clean responses below)

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