I had a new client come in for her second session last night (by her request, she's on a weekly schedule until she feels like she's getting a grip on balance and improved coping mechanism), and something that I kept catching her up on was the language of "should", especially something we took to calling "Other People's Shoulds", meaning all the ( Read more... )

Thinking more about yesterday's (FLocked, sorry) post, because even when it doesn't look or feel like I'm actively processing something, I apparently am - sometimes even to my own surprise ( Read more... )

(And something I can refer to more generally than needing to have a reference book open in front of me for transcriptions ( Read more... )

musicman asked the very legitimate question of "What do I mean by a free-fall stateMost of my life, I have been a control freak, and changes to my carefully constructed plans constituted a massive and unpleasant travesty of epic proportions (at least in my mind). I don't deal with fluctuations well, and surprises even less well than that, so much of my ( Read more... )

I've been thinking a lot lately about choice, especially in how it relates to validation in relationships, which in turn relates to how people self-soothe (or don't) their anxieties through either self-validation or other-validation. this in turn has lead me to examine some of my own motivations through the years for selecting relationships, both ( Read more... )