Some day, I hope to be able to tell which of the voices I'm learning to filter out in my head are mine, and which are those that have been living rent-free in this space for a lifetime. It took a long time to be able to discern the subtle difference between my Self and my weasels - which, while still a part of me, are short term wants ( Read more... )

I've been thinking a lot lately about choice, especially in how it relates to validation in relationships, which in turn relates to how people self-soothe (or don't) their anxieties through either self-validation or other-validation. this in turn has lead me to examine some of my own motivations through the years for selecting relationships, both ( Read more... )

( sometimes, being a member of your own consciousness has its privileges. )