Really?

[dirtywordplay]

We're 250-ish days away from our June 16th wedding and I'm so ready to just buy plane tickets instead. I wanted to elope in the first place, and my FH didn't, and our families didn't, so we aren't. But no one seems to want to help make sure this wedding happens either. My FMIL flipped out back in August, calling me unstable and saying we're rushing

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[tamaracat]

I considered eloping about four months before my wedding too. It just seemed so much easier planning wise, drama wise, stress wise... In the end it was all worth it and our day was great

[lumpyhead]

This. Also, A has kids and lives in town with you. If she can't make it, she can't make it dress shopping. Sure, she misses the excursion, but she also has family obligations. So go with the OOT BMs, pick your stuff and then offer to go with A when she's free.

[dithie]

Agree -- this sounds like a good compromise.

[dirtywordplay]

This is what we're going to end up doing, but A was the one who wanted to all go dress shopping when they're up here, so I made the arrangements with the other two and now A can't go.

[miraje]

Can you two come to some kind of compromise on the dress style? I initially wanted knee-length chiffons for my BMs, too, but they both fought me on the idea of wearing short dresses. I asked them to try one on just to humor me when we were out dress shopping, and their instincts were dead-on. They looked way better in the long dresses they picked out for themselves (also not chiffon), so I let them wear the ones they'd be more comfortable in. I mean, I don't want my closest friends to be miserable on my wedding day because they hate how they look in their dresses, and I don't think I could tell them to step down over the dress either.

[lehulei]

How old are A's kids? Would it be too terrible to have the kids tag along with you? Trying on dresses wouldn't take too terribly long, I'd imagine.

[purplepuffygirl]

We took my niece, who was just barely one at the time we went and tried on dresses. We went in the middle of the week and there weren't many people there, so she kind of just ran around (obviously we watched her and made sure she didn't get into anything she wasn't supposed to) and giggled a lot. :)

[dirtywordplay]

2 and 6, and it's an hour and a half or so drive from home to a Davids Bridal (the joys of rural areas)

[amiyuy]

My bridesmaids didn't go with me dress shopping (all live out of state or were out of state). Only two of five went with my friend (and she didn't ask us until after).

Compromise or at least making sure the dresses you want flatter them is important. My friend picked out a pattern she liked but put no thought into it beyond that. It had a low back and low front and she wouldn't let the seamstress adjust it to hide bras or in my case, cleavage. I was extremely unhappy for weeks beforehand and not super happy the day of (or looking at pictures after).

My girls are getting re-wearable Infinity dresses and I've had no complaints, but it's a pattern that should flatter them all as well as being very affordable (just price of fabric).

Sorry about the other family drama. :(