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kaygigi in weddingplans

Gift help?

Apr 20, 2011 14:19

My spouse and I were married back in October, and while we are long overdue for a post-wedding update, sadly this is not that post!

Recently we received what we consider a "courtesy" invite to a wedding in my spouse's hometown. Basically, my spouse's parents and the bride's parents are good friends, so there were reciprocal invites, but only the ( Read more... )

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mrsnoel April 20 2011, 18:21:53 UTC

Is it possible it's too early and they haven't gotten to registering anywhere? When is the wedding?

kaygigi April 20 2011, 18:25:02 UTC

Oh, I forgot to mention that. Our original invite was lost in the mail, so we just got it yesterday and the RSVP date is tomorrow! The original invite was mailed in late March. The wedding is May 26.

So I doubt it is too early. In fact, I think it may be too late to create a registry!

mrsnoel April 20 2011, 18:26:25 UTC

Ah okay, why not call/have your parents call their parents and ask if they are registered anywhere? Maybe they registered at some small store that's not very known or something.

fortuna_juvat April 20 2011, 18:24:54 UTC

How about giving your parents cash toward what they were going to buy, and have the gift be from all four of you?

kaygigi April 20 2011, 18:27:28 UTC

I think we'll probably do this, but they don't know what to give either! Her parents haven't been, um, responsive, as far as we know, regarding the "what should we get her" question.

mrsnoel April 20 2011, 18:29:30 UTC

At the end of the day if they haven't registered, haven't made a wedsite, and won't answer questions about what gifts they want then I'd say pick a joint gift to give with your parents (a pretty crystal serving platter, ect.) or give cash. What more can you do?

herladyship April 20 2011, 18:25:33 UTC

I would ask the parents or the maid of honour.

kaygigi April 20 2011, 18:26:45 UTC

We don't even know who the maid of honor is! The lack of a wedsite is bringing us down...

quasisonic April 20 2011, 18:32:27 UTC

I was going to suggest asking the parents, but since you said they haven't been responsive, and you don't know who the MOH or the Best Man are, I would just pool funds with your parents on a gift, maybe they'll come up with a good traditional wedding gift you can all give together? :)

calmcollapse April 20 2011, 18:38:59 UTC

If they aren't giving guidance or help, then I would pool money to get a gift certificate to a fancy restaurant near where the couple live or just cash.

I doubt this couple registered at these places, but Home Depot, Wal-Mart, and Lowe's all have gift registries as well. It's worth a shot, right?