A dilema

[amy_in_pdx]

So I asked a family friend who has a lovely home and garden if I could hold my reception there. After three weeks of not hearing from them, I started to worry. I came up with a backup plan of holding the reception at my parents' house. The more I thought about it and started thinking about logistics, the more I liked the idea of hold the reception

Comments

[oh_muffy]

Make a pros & cons list with your fiance! Sounds corny, but for things where you really can't decide, it always helps me to get it down on paper & go from there : )

[lizzie]

Before you turn down the offer to have it at the family friend's house, evaluate the logistics of having it at your parents house. Backyard weddings have a lot of unusual problems that many people don't have to face when they're having it in a typical reception hall. Since your family friend's have hosted weddings before, they've probably figured out how to do these things. We had an outdoor wedding on my family's farm. While I'm not sure whether you'd have the entire wedding inside the house, outside the house, or a combination of the two, here's a list of challenges that we had to overcome

[neoqbacca]

Also, if you are having food and dancing, is the ground level enough for them to put in tables and a dance floor? Or is there a big enough patio?

[lizzie]

Oh, good thought! We had problems with that ourselves- we had to bring in some dirt to even out the floor in part of the barn.

[itybittywhitty]

If you choose one over the other if you think there might be ill feelings or anything like that... or if you really love both venues, maybe you could hold the rehearsal dinner at the other location that you don't end up choosing? Then you can have the best of both!