But I don't want to give her false hope because there are people on our B list we want to invite but aren't able to unless others decline. So even before her friends, we have people we'd want to invite, lol...
I don't think you're out of line at all - a budget is a budget, and if you already have your max people on the A list, there's nothing you can do absent her giving MORE money. Tell her that the budget (including everything she's given) is already allocated and the max number of guests are on the list, but if any "no"s come in you'll be happy to extend an invitation to those friends. If you think it wouldn't go over badly, tell her that you would be happy to invite those people right off the bat if she's willing to contribute more to pay for their seats.
I would tell her that she is more than welcome to pay for them on top of what she is giving you. But with what you currently have, any extra people isn't at all possible. She's trying to pull a power trip, and you can't let her. If it helps, you might have your FH with you when you tell her, so she can see that it's a united decision, not just you telling her. Her helping you out does not justify her trying to push her own guest into the party.
You could always mix them in on the B list. Maybe that would be a compromise?
Yeah he already told her, so hopefully I don't have to deal with it.
I will tell her we're putting them on the B list but honestly, we even have a C list, and they'd go at pretty much the end of that. I hope she understands.
Yeah he has already spoken to her about it so hopefully that takes care of it. If he wanted those people there, we would make it happen. But he didn't even think about them and doesn't even really know them that well. I agree...everything involving his mom, he needs to talk to her about, and he will. We're all good there, thankfully
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Is there any way you can just hand them back a check for the amount? That's what I would be tempted to do. In light of what the rest of the wedding is costing you, isn't $2k worth your sanity?
I was tempted to do this, but it would cause way more drama than it would save, trust me. :-/ I don't think she is going to push it...she just e-mailed me and was like, "Are these the lanterns you want? I'll get them for you!" She's been really helpful and such so I don't want to insult her and cause all this drama. As long as she doesn't argue with my FH about why they should be invited, I think we'll be fine.
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You could always mix them in on the B list. Maybe that would be a compromise?
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I will tell her we're putting them on the B list but honestly, we even have a C list, and they'd go at pretty much the end of that. I hope she understands.
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