Our wedding hasn`t happened yet but FH and I went to his cousin`s wedding last April and they had no ushers. It was really awkward and people just milled around looking lost and not knowing where to sit. That was when we vowed to have ushers. (And yes we totally were some of those lost people.)
I just think when you enter a church for a wedding, it's pretty common sense that people from the bride's side sit on the left, and people from the groom's side sit on the right. I mean, I haven't been to a wedding for like 10 years...but is it not common sense?
Who cares who sits where? Just let people sit where they feel comfortable - the world isn't going to come screeching to a halt.
If you're that worried about it, you could put a sign some place that says "Please seat yourselves where you feel comfortable" in nice pen or something.
That's basically what we're doing. I hadn't intended to have programs, but we're having my fiance's mom make them so that she feels involved. And they'll be in a basket and they'll say something sappy about mingling families and unifying whatever and blah blah put your damn butt in a seat and we don't care where.
...yeah, I think some plain easy instructions like that can make people feel not awkward and just help everything take care of itself...if I just walked in and was unsure if, say, the first few rows or some other area was reserved for family only, I might tend to stay to some little obscure area to make sure I wasn't in 'the wrong place' somehow, and might feel on the spot...but if it clearly says that, and maybe something if there *are* areas reserved for close family etc., that would make it clear...
i had a fancy yet still 'wing it' kinda wedding. we didnt have a formal rehearsal. we didnt have ushers. our dinner was buffet so it was 'dinner (omg, i typed 'dirty' first) and dancing to follow' - everything still worked out fantastic. i wont say perfect because it was colder than we expected and the judge was late - but nobody complained - they only raved on how amazing a night it was.
my mom laughs now how she was seated by the venue manager - which luckily she knows - instead of someone else - but now that i think about it - who else would've sat her? we have few men in my family except for my dad.
i think the mom's can seat themselves. like, it would be nice for the mom's and grandma's to just walk down the aisle together and sit down. without an escort.
You could, instead of having ushers, have fancy placards in a stand indicating "groom" and "bride" or something like that.
As far as invitations and RSVP, if you're not requiring them to choose their meal there's really no reason to add that part in. Most receptions include dinner, and if they don't then they're specified.
Yeah, i would much rather spend my time making signs directing people to sit somewhere (i'm a creative person) than waste my time trying to figure out who is going to be an usher, and what they are going to wear, and making more flowers, and blah blah blah
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It may be common knowledge to some people if that`s what you mean.
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If you're that worried about it, you could put a sign some place that says "Please seat yourselves where you feel comfortable" in nice pen or something.
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my mom laughs now how she was seated by the venue manager - which luckily she knows - instead of someone else - but now that i think about it - who else would've sat her? we have few men in my family except for my dad.
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As far as invitations and RSVP, if you're not requiring them to choose their meal there's really no reason to add that part in. Most receptions include dinner, and if they don't then they're specified.
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