RAWR
As I get closer to my wedding (89 days! when did that happen?), I find that I'm posting more often.
Anyway...
I really like my FMIL, but lately she's kind of getting on my nerves. She keeps INSISTING on some of the more traditional aspects of my wedding. IE: "..but you HAVE to have a cake cutting set!" "You MUST have programs so everyone knows who everyone is!" "We HAVE to have a FANCY rehearsal dinner...no you can't wear jeans and eat pizza!" "You HAVE to give out favors, those glow bracelets aren't nice enough!"
There are two items she's been on me about lately...
1.) I dont think I need them. It just means more work: I have to make more bouts, I have to tell them what to wear, I have to add more people to the rehearsal dinner, etc. And I dont think they're necessary. Generally, EVERYONE knows that left is the bride's side and right is the grooms side, so you dont really need them to help seat anyone. And really, people can pick up their own programs without some random person handing them one. But FMIL thinks I NEED to have ushers to seat the mothers and grandmothers. I'm like "can't you just seat yourselves? You dont NEED someone to walk you down the aisle...you're not disabled!" *sigh*
So, for anyone who DID NOT have ushers, did this cause ANY kind of problems? How did you handle seating of people and whatnot?
and 2.) On my invitations (which we just printed TOGETHER on sunday), it simply says "Reception to follow at 6 o'clock." Now she's worried that because we didn't explicitly mention dinner on the invites, people wont know and OMGENDOFTHEWORLD. And I told her "that's why I put the website on the invitations...so they can go there and find out about dinner plus 101 other things they might like to know." Is that good enough? no. of course not. She wants me to add it to my RSVP cards (which I have not printed yet). which would then end up with wording something like this:
Please join us for dinner at seven o'clock and dancing.
We have reserved __ seats in your honor
M________________________
___ of ___ will attend
___ decline with regrets
Please respond by May 15th
instead of just...
We have reserved __ seats in your honor
M_________________
__ of __ will attend
__ decline with regrets
Please respond by May 15th
Is this a huge deal? no. But I liked the way I had it. And if I say no, she's just going to keep insisting.
So which do you think is better? Is it OMGNECESSARY that dinner is mentioned explicitly, or is common sense and the website enough?
Input is appreciated, as I was going to print these tonight. grrrr...
Anyway...
I really like my FMIL, but lately she's kind of getting on my nerves. She keeps INSISTING on some of the more traditional aspects of my wedding. IE: "..but you HAVE to have a cake cutting set!" "You MUST have programs so everyone knows who everyone is!" "We HAVE to have a FANCY rehearsal dinner...no you can't wear jeans and eat pizza!" "You HAVE to give out favors, those glow bracelets aren't nice enough!"
There are two items she's been on me about lately...
1.) I dont think I need them. It just means more work: I have to make more bouts, I have to tell them what to wear, I have to add more people to the rehearsal dinner, etc. And I dont think they're necessary. Generally, EVERYONE knows that left is the bride's side and right is the grooms side, so you dont really need them to help seat anyone. And really, people can pick up their own programs without some random person handing them one. But FMIL thinks I NEED to have ushers to seat the mothers and grandmothers. I'm like "can't you just seat yourselves? You dont NEED someone to walk you down the aisle...you're not disabled!" *sigh*
So, for anyone who DID NOT have ushers, did this cause ANY kind of problems? How did you handle seating of people and whatnot?
and 2.) On my invitations (which we just printed TOGETHER on sunday), it simply says "Reception to follow at 6 o'clock." Now she's worried that because we didn't explicitly mention dinner on the invites, people wont know and OMGENDOFTHEWORLD. And I told her "that's why I put the website on the invitations...so they can go there and find out about dinner plus 101 other things they might like to know." Is that good enough? no. of course not. She wants me to add it to my RSVP cards (which I have not printed yet). which would then end up with wording something like this:
Please join us for dinner at seven o'clock and dancing.
We have reserved __ seats in your honor
M________________________
___ of ___ will attend
___ decline with regrets
Please respond by May 15th
instead of just...
We have reserved __ seats in your honor
M_________________
__ of __ will attend
__ decline with regrets
Please respond by May 15th
Is this a huge deal? no. But I liked the way I had it. And if I say no, she's just going to keep insisting.
So which do you think is better? Is it OMGNECESSARY that dinner is mentioned explicitly, or is common sense and the website enough?
Input is appreciated, as I was going to print these tonight. grrrr...