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Future Mother In Law: The Flip Side

Jan 14, 2009 07:39

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zooy January 14 2009, 13:00:07 UTC

I don't believe my FMIL is better per say but if you put her and my mom together, you'd have the perfect mom. My mom has the compassion down pat and she has the smarts but lacks some compassion at times. Put them together... and bam perfect mom.

fallstosilver January 14 2009, 20:16:51 UTC

That's awesomely lucky for you!

faerie_mistress January 14 2009, 13:04:23 UTC

Yes. Both my mother and my FMIL have very similar personalities and will talk your leg off, however my mother has been very negative about the whole wedding thing wheras my FMIL cannot wait to have me in the family, and has said repeatedly that if FH and I ever break up, she's going to adopt me instead. I have no idea why my mother has been so down about the wedding- she loves FH, we've been friends for 6+ years and dating for 3, and I'm 25 so it's not like I'm rushing into this (she got married at age 21). But she keeps insisting that we don't need to get married because de facto's have the same legal rights so it's pointless according to her. Everything that comes out of her mouth is snide and unhelpful (not just about the wedding, but in general as well), whereas my FMIL is always positive and encouraging (even if half that encouragment is for me to pop babies out as soon as possible. I told her she can have a grand-kitty names after her if she likes).

fallstosilver January 14 2009, 20:20:39 UTC

I had a dream like that.. my family was trying to convince FH to not marry me, and his family was just so excited to have me in the family.

extoria January 14 2009, 13:30:27 UTC

I'm just jealous that your Y has a yoga class. I just joined for kickboxing, but I'd like to take yoga too. =/

fallstosilver January 14 2009, 20:18:23 UTC

Hahaha. It's an inner city Y, thankfully. It's so awesome!

pepperedmoth January 14 2009, 13:51:41 UTC

I love both my moms. For me, my own mother will always be nearest and dearest, but I was definitely surprised by how good my relationship with FMIL became- after all the horror stories I've heard!

So I don't think you're crazy! Not everyone is closest to their bio-family.

etoilepb January 14 2009, 13:56:30 UTC

Family relations are funny things, aren't they.

In our case, it's my fiancé who's swapping out his mom for mine. His mom is nasty and inaccessible and unpleasant and browbeating, and mine's all, "More kids? Have a cookie!" But on the flip side, I suddenly find myself with lots of vigorous young grandparents, of a type I never had before.

I guess that's the thing about getting married, really; you really do get a whole family into the bargain.

fallstosilver January 14 2009, 20:21:13 UTC

Yeah, I'm excited about that. And his mom kind of sounds like mine.