What gives you a sense of security?

[watervole]

I was pondering this one yesterday, because the answer is very different for different people.

Some people find a sense of security in having posessions, others in people, some in a particular place. Or it may be a combination of several of these.

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[snowgrouse]

I feel best when I have enough money to live and travel to see/otherwise keep in touch with my beloved ones. I think I'd die without the Internet, since my best friends are all scattered across the world.

I feel most comfortable in the arms of a beloved, truly beloved. Hugging a friend. Alone in the woods where no-one can see me, except the animals. Singing old Finnish song-poems and shamanic chants, feeling at one with nature and full of love and joy. And of course, the sauna. Where I can put my feet up, lay down in the soft heat and rest and be purified. In the countryside.

And of course, whenever there are cats around. There are days I when I couldn't get out of bed if it weren't for Noki wanting her morning cuddle.

Thank you so much for this post:). Exercises in gratitude do soothe the mind.

[sugoll]

I find my guitar very comforting, sometimes - it's good to just relax into the music.

I find certain groups of people comforting - people who I know, and with who I know I'll get on well, and (this is important) get on well with each other, too.

It's very comforting to be working on a technical software problem, and making progress. The feeling of being able to write something that solves a hard problem, and does so well, is indescribable.(I suspect the same applies to any kind of creation.) The converse applies: I'm uncomfortable managing people, especially if I can't connect well.

[watervole]

I find some editing work relaxing, and embroidery too.

Technical stuff can drive me crazy. I've just been trying a few of the audio-steaming things that people have recommended and I don't even know where to start with them. I can't make them do what I want to do and I have so little familiarity with this machine that I barely know how to download things, let alone find the instructions and make sense of how to use them. I click on the obvious buttons (like 'start recording') and nothing happens.

[sugoll]

Ah, yes - that kind of thing is the opposite of comforting. I was talking more about writing software from scratch. Hence the creation. Dealing with someone else's badly-written stuff isn't good at all. :-)

[kerravonsen]

What gives me security? Or what gives me serenity/peace?

The most secure and serene I've been has been when I've felt the presence of God, some spiritual experience... and they don't necessarily come when you call. Though I've been learning a lot lately

[lizblackdog]

For me, it's people. My collection of friends, my lover, my family and my dogs. Possessions are nice, but they always feel too ephemeral and undependable to me - and I've lost them all and had to start over too often to derive any real security there. Friends, though, have a way of being unlosable - even when I've been quite certain my life and theirs would never touch again.

*grin*

[watervole]

*grin* indeed.

Sadly ...

[the_magician]

... and I think I can blame my childhood for this ... I don't think I bind as tightly to my friends as they do to me ... it's lovely seeing them again (at conventions or other events) but if I don't see them for weeks or months or years ... then it doesn't matter ... you could look at the upside of that and say that my friendships are not destroyed by time and space, or the downside that I am bad at keeping in touch and doing the little things that keep a friendship bright

[kalypso_v]

I become more and more invested in my house. I think it's becoming an extension of me, or maybe vice versa. There's still a lot I need to do (which could apply either to the house or to my life). But I'm never quite as glad as when I come home.