What gives you a sense of security?

[watervole]

I was pondering this one yesterday, because the answer is very different for different people.

Some people find a sense of security in having posessions, others in people, some in a particular place. Or it may be a combination of several of these.

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Sadly ...

[the_magician]

... and I think I can blame my childhood for this ... I don't think I bind as tightly to my friends as they do to me ... it's lovely seeing them again (at conventions or other events) but if I don't see them for weeks or months or years ... then it doesn't matter ... you could look at the upside of that and say that my friendships are not destroyed by time and space, or the downside that I am bad at keeping in touch and doing the little things that keep a friendship bright.

I'm very lucky in my friends in that most of them are either ok with the time/space gaps, or are willing to put in the effort to phone me, email me etc. to keep things going ... and I really appreciate that.

I don't think it's selfishness (or laziness) on my part that stops me replying as often as I feel I should, or stops me contacting my many friends ... but I'm not sure what it *is*.

There is certainly a comfort and security (for me) in buying stuff, and in having stuff "just in case" or "for when I get some free time".

From when I was younger I know I can start over in a new place and make new friends ... but the (few) memories I carry forward are mostly of music, objects ... and mistakes I've made (things done, and things failed to do). I've lost the names and faces of most of my friends even from university (and the names of the lecturers etc.) and yet the embarrassing incidents still burn in my mind :-(

I'm not sure I have a sense of security in *anything* or *anywhere* and from time to time I think about just letting everything go ...