Haven't written on this in years...

[vielika]

Have you ever realized something about yourself or your life that really saddened you?  I had the revelation today that I am no ones best friend.  The two people who I see as my closest and best friends, neither of them see me as such.  I'm a good friend, I'm not the best.  Even when I stand up for someone, even when I stick by them through years

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[ahsavka]

Oh no! Don't be sad - it's okay not to be any particular person's best friend. I'm not anybody's. The closest thing I have to a best friend is the person I'm marrying, and I think a lot of people end up like that. I have some really great, great friends, but I'm totally a #2 (at best!) to most of them. In my experience, long-term best friends are super rare. Few people have them at age 35. Kudos to those that do, it's very cool that they have a relationship like that, but don't think you're deficient! I think most of us don't have one person we can claim as our best friend. It's no contest - as long as they love you and are good friends to you, then it's all good.

(I hope you feel better!)