Comments | victorianautumn: Argh, I cant stand him

victorianautumn

Argh, I cant stand him

Mar 06, 2009 16:46

My dad wakes me up and the first thing he tells me to do is to clean my room finally even though he told me off about it crazily last night. He says that there needs to be order in my life and that he doesnt want his house like that, as if guests were gonna peek in my room, lol. Two concepts I cant relate to at all. He then just casually tells me ( Read more... )

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victorianautumn March 6 2009, 20:43:16 UTC

He didnt know how tired I was, or maybe he did because he knows Im on meds. He was particularily in my face today, partly because of issues with his wife.

Thanks for understanding.

schwarzfahrerin March 7 2009, 00:28:21 UTC

Parents have a habit of piling things on their kids all at once. Wake up, tidy your room, clean the house, don't forget the note. I think that they tend to ignore how it might feel if somebody were to do that to THEM. :\

But you're right; your dad shouldn't be hounding on you to do anything to your room, because, well... it's YOUR room. If he's having his own issues, that's one thing, but to make you feel awful because he can't resolve them? That's totally unfair.

victorianautumn March 7 2009, 00:58:27 UTC

Well he was having issues with his wife not wanting to clean, so he made us do it to show her how she should be, lol. Pretty silly if you ask me.

I also think that he has these insecurities that he relives on me. He doesnt want any portion of his house to be dirty, he doesnt want me to do things out of order because that represents disorder in my life for him. There are obviously real personal and kind of out of irrelevant, maybe irrational fears there on his part.

pervertedlikeme March 8 2009, 05:55:28 UTC

He should work things out with his wife instead of taking it out on you.

Sorry bb <3

victorianautumn March 8 2009, 14:56:39 UTC

Yeah, well I think he is just generally very anxious and insecure. He obviously is insecure seeing as he asked us to help by cleaning to prove a point to his wife. Otherwise, he could just sort her out and the situation out instead of getting us to 'help' him.

folkdeer March 8 2009, 22:18:32 UTC

haha. i totally agree. who the hell is coming into my room that i need to be cleaning it? makes no sense.

my old psychologist was like yours. misinterpreting everything. that's why i left that chick. i'd love to see someone else because its been forever since i've actually spoken to someone about my true feelings, but i don't want to deal with all the appointments and stuff. haha.

ah. i want to go to california too. i can't make up my mind between there and new york though.

hope all goes well.

victorianautumn March 8 2009, 22:43:00 UTC

Exactly, and if friends come over then they dont mind anyway, their rooms are just as messy too most of the time I think.

She does misinterpret a few things lately I've noticed, and they seem to be pretty meaningful things that really upset me. I'll go this week and see if it carries on and I'll do the same as you did.

They both seem like lovely places. I'd go with California though, personally.

Thanks for the reply!