How nice to see others writing long wordy responses on fb groups today. Often the responses are clipped and have glaring holes whereby people can misconstrue *everything*. So glad to see I'm not the only one who writes long responses :) Today I've struggled several times with how to express my annoyance with the pervasive persistence of
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The line "The response was 'oh they're not going anywhere'. " had me filled with all kinds of rage. Sometimes the SCA looks horribly like a dysfunctional marriage - "sure, I noticed, but I didn't think I need to *say* anything! I live here, don't I?"
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You know well that the SCA attracts many different flavours and amongst those are the socially awkward, extremely creative types. They are either hopeless at expressing themselves, or they over-do it. The brain-mouth filter very frequently fails. Some of us are very sensitive, empathetic people, to the point where it is painful. Others...completely lack it. But a good kick in the empathies all too often spoils a good person.
Look after yourself. Take the time and space you need.
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As I just said in my reply to madsheena, this person is already in my close sphere for peer reasons and so is already getting lots of support both verbal and physical, personal tokens etc
The kick in the empathies is really doing some damage around these here parts and it's driving me a little nuts. Most of it seems to be simply a lack of communication altogether although people think they're doing each other favours. Without full knowledge it's causing huge issues that may be unrecoverable.
Mostly this is a fallout between households where both are burnt out and not thinking before acting, getting upset and then losing sight of the bigger picture/game. HOpefully the chrissy break will fix that, along with a change of official positions for a bunch of 'em.
Meanwhile I'm enjoying learning to make baskets, paint and contemplate a possible trip to Europe. Not my circus but some of them are my monkeys :/
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Life can be awkward enough with out people using the brain and words they were gifted. I am personally finding miss communication to be a royal pain in my ass.
Here is to brighter futures, happier time... and fun in our game!
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Yeah, the rampant self absorption thing seems to create the barrier to people communicating and empathising with others. Sucks to be them I say!
Fun, fun and more fun. See you soon!
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As always, there's a little bit more to this than meets my mad rant. This person already gets loads of support from me on a personal level so it's almost impossible to up that.
The person's household is also extremely supportive and have made recommendations as well.
The awards recommended are well overdue and it's more of a political/personality stance that seems to be going on. Our Barony is Politarchopolis so it's not really surprising :)
Although awards aren't and shouldn't be what it's all about, sometimes it's the most visual and obvious way to show someone that 'everyone' appreciates what they do. Not just their friends.
You sound like a lovely person and obviously we have some friends in common who I also like very very much. Enjoy the sca for what you like to do and try and steer clear of the mayhem that some personalities bring to it (and every other arena of life in all reality but the sca seems to focus that somehow).
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Lol thanks so much for your reply.
learning so much both about myself and my fellow players.
looking forward to catching up and having a proper chat soon.
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