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therealocelot

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Apr 28, 2011 16:24

Ok, curiosity/sanity check time ( Read more... )

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marnanel April 28 2011, 23:31:53 UTC

a) Dealbreaker or pretty close.

b) No, not at all.

savia April 28 2011, 23:31:54 UTC

Installing a keylogger is a serious breech of privacy for anyone, including and especially intimate partners. I would be furious ( ... )

savia April 29 2011, 00:01:26 UTC

I would also like to add that I think it's necessary and good for spouses/partners to have private parts of their lives that their partners/spouses are not privy to. Not like hoarding secrets, but just having one's own space and one's own life. It's healthy. Which is why invasion of that is so wrong - it's claiming ownership over someone else's autonomous space.

If you are worried, ask questions. If you don't believe the answers, then leave, get counseling, or both.

savia April 28 2011, 23:58:29 UTC

Regarding the ETA, I'm glad to hear it! :)

jodisue April 29 2011, 02:31:32 UTC

Keylogger is wrong. If there's suspicion you have to be able to talk to the person and air it out. I can see a keylogger or other content blocker installed *knowingly* by both partners as some sort of accountability plan, but not as a way to find out if something is wrong.

Hubby and I know each others passwords, and we feel free to check each other's mail (usually in the situation of his or my email having a needed phone number or address or something like that). I'm the only one of us that has a FB account and hubby checks it regularly because he doesn't want one of his own but likes to see what everyone he knows on my flist is up to.

twirlingecho April 29 2011, 03:14:29 UTC

I would not like it if Pat installed a keylogger because he was suspicious of me... mostly because I would be shocked and saddened that he didn't just talk to me about the issue, because that's what we do- talk about stuff. If I found out he installed a keylogger for the purpose of testing it or something for work, however, it wouldn't bother me one tiny little bit. Of course, if he did, he would tell me about it beforehand. Although, he's pretty serious about internet privacy and security issues, so I'm sure he would set up a separate machine to test such a thing ( ... )