The keylogger thing is just weird. I watch enough Forensic Files (with DH) to think that there could be situations where it would be... reasonable. If you feel the need to do it, you sure as hell better be leaving the other person, whether you find something or not. But, if you think your spouse is trying to kill you (literally), and you can't get protection without proof, go for it. Did I mention the Forensic Files thing? LOL Anything short of that, just get out and move along.
As for passwords, I know DH's. If he doesn't know mine, he hasn't been paying attention. My computer remembers most of them automatically, though, so it's not hard for him to access whatever he wants. Not that he ever does.
I think it's really easy for people who haven't been in a serious situation to answer this, without knowing what one would actually do in real life
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Screening your comment when I'm done because I'm not sure you actually intended to leave it on a public entry. If you want it public, let me know, and I'll unscreen.
Sounds like your line is similar to mine - if I was seriously concerned about someone's safety, I'd consider snooping. It would have to be something serious enough to be worth potentially destroying the relationship over regardless of whether I was right or wrong.
I'm sorry you went through that.
My own personal experience on the wrong end of a keylogger (for no good reason) makes me perhaps a bit on the sensitive side in the other direction. Though it seems my feelings on the matter aren't actually as unusual as it seemed based on the post ielsewhere that inspired the question.
I would be really upset about the keylogging thing. But I would want to be understanding. If they really think something was wrong I can see why they might do such a thing. But I would need to have whatever trust issue worked out and if something like that happened again I don't know what I would do.
I don't have a SO, but when I did, I didn't exactly share my passwords with them, but I didn't care if they knew what they were as I always checked my email in front of them and sometimes I told them my email password if I couldn't access a computer and I wanted them to check something for me.
That. There is a LOT I will (and have) put up with. That would be so far into final-straw territory the two halves of the camel would land in different states.
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As for passwords, I know DH's. If he doesn't know mine, he hasn't been paying attention. My computer remembers most of them automatically, though, so it's not hard for him to access whatever he wants. Not that he ever does.
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Sounds like your line is similar to mine - if I was seriously concerned about someone's safety, I'd consider snooping. It would have to be something serious enough to be worth potentially destroying the relationship over regardless of whether I was right or wrong.
I'm sorry you went through that.
My own personal experience on the wrong end of a keylogger (for no good reason) makes me perhaps a bit on the sensitive side in the other direction. Though it seems my feelings on the matter aren't actually as unusual as it seemed based on the post ielsewhere that inspired the question.
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I had wondered what caused you to leave the area so suddenly.
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I don't have a SO, but when I did, I didn't exactly share my passwords with them, but I didn't care if they knew what they were as I always checked my email in front of them and sometimes I told them my email password if I couldn't access a computer and I wanted them to check something for me.
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I've shared passwords with SOs, but I'm not sure I would, anymore. I think I've been lucky in the past, and I don't want to tempt fate.
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