I think it's really easy for people who haven't been in a serious situation to answer this, without knowing what one would actually do in real life
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Screening your comment when I'm done because I'm not sure you actually intended to leave it on a public entry. If you want it public, let me know, and I'll unscreen.
Sounds like your line is similar to mine - if I was seriously concerned about someone's safety, I'd consider snooping. It would have to be something serious enough to be worth potentially destroying the relationship over regardless of whether I was right or wrong.
I'm sorry you went through that.
My own personal experience on the wrong end of a keylogger (for no good reason) makes me perhaps a bit on the sensitive side in the other direction. Though it seems my feelings on the matter aren't actually as unusual as it seemed based on the post ielsewhere that inspired the question.
It's sort of... funny, but not exactly... to think about how naive I was back then--I left the area so suddenly in large part because I was certain the media would be coming after me at any moment. I'd seen similar stories on the local news and in the paper in the past, some of which weren't nearly as bad as what my ex did, plus I knew this story had a particular hook in the Land of Prop 8 that they might run with. It didn't end up in the media at all for various reasons, perhaps due to my own panicked efforts.
I think it's really easy for people who haven't been in a serious situation to answer this, without knowing what one would actually do in real life.Most people can live their entire lives in a trusting relatively simple relationship and that's great, and they can come on here and say OH NO I WOULD NEVER DO THAT we can just talk about everything, la la la. Well, as you very bravely shared here, life is not that simple. Sometimes you need to go that extra mile because just talking is not going to cut it
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Really, it was so out there that it didn't feel particularly bad. Just one of those moments of realization that there are people that have a TOTALLY different worldview than I do.
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Sounds like your line is similar to mine - if I was seriously concerned about someone's safety, I'd consider snooping. It would have to be something serious enough to be worth potentially destroying the relationship over regardless of whether I was right or wrong.
I'm sorry you went through that.
My own personal experience on the wrong end of a keylogger (for no good reason) makes me perhaps a bit on the sensitive side in the other direction. Though it seems my feelings on the matter aren't actually as unusual as it seemed based on the post ielsewhere that inspired the question.
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I had wondered what caused you to leave the area so suddenly.
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I think it's really easy for people who haven't been in a serious situation to answer this, without knowing what one would actually do in real life.Most people can live their entire lives in a trusting relatively simple relationship and that's great, and they can come on here and say OH NO I WOULD NEVER DO THAT we can just talk about everything, la la la. Well, as you very bravely shared here, life is not that simple. Sometimes you need to go that extra mile because just talking is not going to cut it ( ... )
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