I recently learned about the deeply moving story of the mother of a 2-grade pupil at the school where I am deputy principal, who had recently become a surrogate mother. Maybe because I have an adopted child myself, a 5 year old boy from Haiti, it struck a chord. This woman is a poor white Afrikaner from the suburbs of the big city, someone who has
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It's not a simple black and white Yes/No issue, that's for sure.
Meanwhile, there are millions of orphan kids like your boy who would have appreciated being adopted by someone loving and caring with a stable social status like yourself, and being given a shot at having a better life...
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Too often this issue is viewed through the prism of "what happens to the mother". For instance: what happens to the mother if she gives birth to a child with disabilities. What if the host family decides to tear down the contract and quit the adoption? OK, they pay the fine, then what. Etc.
And the focus of the issue should be on the third side - the most important one. The child. Would such a child be growing up feeling normal if he or she knows how they came to the world ( ... )
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No more so than you are from the contract two people sign when they get married.
Surrogacy is simply another method of childbirth. Children born from surrogate mothers are no more different from other children than children born of IVF transfers, or adoption, or "average" pregnancy.
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My son is the result of IVF, and we have another one on the way. It took at least four people to create either. Had we needed a surrogate, we would not have thought twice about it.
This is no different than the right to an abortion. It is a woman's body, it is her choice. If she's being forced, then it's not her choice.
Simple.
Surrogacy is just one more way of having a child, and children born that way are no more born of a commercial contract than children conceived and born the average way. The contract specifies the rights of the PARENTS to both protect the mother and father AND the surrogate. Also simple.
I reject arguments against the morality of surrogacy. I reject arguments against almost any method of having a child. Choice consent are what's most important. Germany needs to pull their heads out of their asses.
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And, as nairiporter points out, there's still the question of the child here, aside from any questions about the woman's rights.
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What questions could there possible be about the child? It's a child. An IVF child take an RE, an embryologist, and others
to make. My IVF child is no different than any other child.
As I said above, it's CHOICE and CONSENT. Coercion is neither of those things. Require that women who do it be not coerced. None of these other "issues" are relevant.
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