Comments | tacit: Interview: So your girlfriend has read 50 Shades; now how do you start with BDSM?

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Interview: So your girlfriend has read 50 Shades; now how do you start with BDSM?

Jul 29, 2012 13:42

A short time ago, I received an email from a writer for Men's Health magazine who'd found me online and wanted to interview me about BDSM. Specifically, the interview was about how someone who's read the book 50 Shades of Grey and found the ideas in it interesting might take the next steo and start exploring BDSM in a relationship ( Read more... )

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Comments 16

pickledginger July 30 2012, 02:40:06 UTC

Step One: Forget everything you have just read ...

red_girl_42 July 30 2012, 02:58:59 UTC

Nice answers! I'm glad you were able to share them.

miss_lisa_ma July 30 2012, 14:24:34 UTC

Thank goodness someone with a clue will be sharing that clue in a mass market publication with thems what need it most. You're a good man, sir.

dreamsinanime August 1 2012, 22:10:37 UTC

You were perhaps the best man for this job, and handled even the most cringe-worthy questions very well.

I think you should know this was helpful even for some of us who get the communication and respect parts. While most of this was "well, duh!" for me, I'm such a n00b to bondage the info that handcuffs or silk could be dangerous is news to me. I had an impression for a long time going from handcuffs and silk, into ropes and leather cuffs and locks was to make it more hardcore, now I need to rethink that.

Torn anonymous August 3 2012, 02:33:59 UTC

Seriously, I’m torn between feeling embarrassed for the interviewer and you as the interviewee. I mean, I get what the interviewer is trying to do. I applaud his efforts. First and foremost I think learning, exploring and gaining knowledge is the cornerstone to growing as an individual, but in this? I think he (the interviewer) is trying too hard to generalize as people getting their kink on is a very personal experience. There is no generalizing here. You can’t tell a huge blog site full of men do this, this way, and you’ll get your perfect sub, slave, satisfied girlfriend, wife or whatever and that’s where this interview took a hard left for me. You keep hammering the same point over and over. Which is a valid point. Yeah the truth is a bitch ain’t it? Bottom line ( ... )