Interview: So your girlfriend has read 50 Shades; now how do you start with BDSM?

[tacit]

A short time ago, I received an email from a writer for Men's Health magazine who'd found me online and wanted to interview me about BDSM. Specifically, the interview was about how someone who's read the book 50 Shades of Grey and found the ideas in it interesting might take the next steo and start exploring BDSM in a relationship

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Torn

[anonymous]

Seriously, I’m torn between feeling embarrassed for the interviewer and you as the interviewee. I mean, I get what the interviewer is trying to do. I applaud his efforts. First and foremost I think learning, exploring and gaining knowledge is the cornerstone to growing as an individual, but in this? I think he (the interviewer) is trying too hard to generalize as people getting their kink on is a very personal experience. There is no generalizing here. You can’t tell a huge blog site full of men do this, this way, and you’ll get your perfect sub, slave, satisfied girlfriend, wife or whatever and that’s where this interview took a hard left for me. You keep hammering the same point over and over. Which is a valid point. Yeah the truth is a bitch ain’t it? Bottom line.

This fundamental philosophy can only be understood by people who want to understand it.

My question to the interviewer would be. Are the people you want to impart this knowledge to, people who want to understand that philosophy? Or do they just hope to exploit it to gain more ground in a battle they’ve been trying to win for eons?

I can’t help but think that the interviewer is playing catch-up with what’s been right there for men to see all along. Their woman’s sexual dissatisfaction. But then I remember, what guy wants to see that? None. Trust me, I don’t totally blame the guys for this. Heck no, because women are complacent/shy most times in voicing their wants. Enough said there, but hey, give them a crowd, friends and a guilt-free person to fall in love with (namely a hero from a book) and they’ll make their men stand up and take notice. I get that. I just don’t get why a guy like you, who does this everyday has to be tortured TODAY because it’s newsworthy at the moment. That’s all I’m sayin’...