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The State of the Swankivy - April 26 - May 2

May 02, 2014 23:32

The week in review:

My sister L's bridal shower was on Saturday, and she got SO MUCH STUFF. I can't even believe it. Not much else happened there besides her getting presents; we ate cake, I had a mildly alcoholic drink (which is unusual), we played a few party games, and I brought my laptop so my California sister could "attend." (Which she did, ( Read more... )

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skygawker May 5 2014, 01:47:05 UTC

We need to chat more often! How does life get so busy?

canadanne May 8 2014, 17:06:27 UTC

Ugh, I just read a BBC article about romcoms which chose to end on the delightful quote "everyone does want to meet somebody and they're lying if they say that they don't". GRRR. (I also hate the way they constantly define romance as "boy meets girl".)

swankivy May 8 2014, 21:20:25 UTC

Gross. Wish I could comment on it and be like "HELLO, ATTITUDES LIKE THIS ARE WHAT HELPS UNNECESSARILY NORMALIZE ROMANCE AS NECESSARY IN EVERYONE'S LIFE AND THIS IS WHY AROMANTIC PEOPLE LIKE ME SPEND MOST OF THEIR LIVES THINKING WE'RE BROKEN." Like really, would it be too much to ask for someone to please acknowledge that presenting mainstream views and then dismissively describing people who disagree as "lying" is really just someone's admission that they don't accept any alternative viewpoints?

canadanne May 8 2014, 22:32:24 UTC

I know, shame there's no feedback form on this article. Maybe responding to the author's tweet would be an option. (Ew, she also tweeted the woman who made the offending statement, telling her "your final quote in the piece makes you the official love guru :)". Oh yeah, she's a total expert on how things are!)

It's really sickening to see this kind of casual aromantic erasure... she doesn't just assume that aromantic people don't exist, but actually bothers to say that anyone who claims to be aromantic should be disbelieved, which is just completely uncalled-for. And it's even worse that they put that quote right at the end like it's the final word on the subject, without making the slightest effort to challenge it. These articles are read by millions of people so I despair at seeing these damaging myths perpetuated. And only a few months after one of our main TV channels broadcast the message "Sex is natural, normal, we all need it, we all like it, we all want to be loved and we all want to be touched, end of story". Please can the ( ... )