Ruth compared to my ideal wife.

[skreyola]

Remember this? The bolded statements are true of Ruth. The italicized parts are statements I changed. The red statements were wrong. The regular text is items I don't yet know.

She is a Christian. She respects me. I believe she has flexibility in dealing with people and events. She is free from addictions. She is 100% non-smoker. She is committed

Comments

[godwillnspire]

Phew, awfully specific there bud! Hope it works out for you- I've run far away from lists like that :P

[skreyola]

The importance of each item is inversely related to its position in the list. I think it's important to know what you want so you'll know it when you see it. I think it would have taken me a lot longer to feel as comfortable as I do about her if I hadn't taken the time to describe what I really wanted beforehand. Also, having done that, I know I'm not deluding myself about details, thinking I wanted X because she has X, when what I would have wanted was Y.

[godwillnspire]

The extremly important things aside (is she a genuine believer... and maybe some other things), perhaps X is better for you, even if you didn't realize it until you experienced it. There are many gifts from God which are not understood until they are had, and many gifts which are rejected because of a vision that was too narrow.

I'm not saying you don't have a case, and, like I said, if it's what you're going to do, I hope it works out for you.

[skreyola]

I assure you that I will do and accept whatever God says I should.

[carlyd81]

I once made a list about the guy I would one day marry. I wish I could find that list now because I know that 99% of it matches up to the man I'm marrying in 5 weeks :)

[skreyola]

It's wonderful that you've found your life partner. :)