Depression

[roguemarvel]

Jared and I are both depressed right now. Well I think he is more just upset, burned out and frustrated about the job search but his attitude is making me depressed. Its really not anyone fault but I'm having trouble dealing with it. The past few days I feel foggy and distant at work and I want to cry all the time when I'm home if jared even gets

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[slave_to_anime]

Time to distract yourself, I guess? If he's hearing tentative bites, maybe focus on helping him write thank you notes to try to seal the deal? And phone calls, phone calls, phone calls. That said, one week is a little short period, maybe the minimum one might expect to wait to hear from offers. If nothing within a week, I'd definitely call them and find out.

If you guys need a friendly ear, though, I believe you still have my phone #. Let me know if I can be of any assistance.

[peacewish]

Please don't take this in a tsk-tsk way, but I want to say that you at least have each other. At least you are there to make money and see him through this, even though that burden is stressing you out. Imagine what might happen if he'd been alone. I was all on my own for five years while I job searched, and couldn't even get a single company to ever call me back, and I'd have been homeless if it weren't for testing my body on developmental phase drugs. Again, I swear, this isn't meant in a tsk-tsk way, just a reminder that you guys have some advantages in your corner. He'll make it, I know he will, because design is a strong field and needs qualified artists. You guys will get through this.

[amiyuy]

*hugs*

I don't know if you guys do this already or not...Maybe set some limits on how much the job search/design tests can take each day? Then set aside the rest of the evening for you two to relax or get other things that need to get done done? Possibly even two separate times. Like projects for work- set up a time schedule. I can't compare to job searching, but I know that with school work it was really stressing me out because it was ever-present, but when we started setting apart that hour or so at least for dinner and watching a show, it helped calm me down. I also performed better on my homework and studying when I made sure I wasn't overly stressed about it.

[unseenoyster]

Sounds like a huge bummer. I'd have to second what others have said. You can't forget to keep balance with the occupations that are important to you both. I understand that sometimes the fear/anxiety and so on will pervade, seep through, or even just feel like it's still siting in the back of your mind while you're doing something else. Also don't forget to do something physical. Burning some energy seems to work for me.

I have heard that Thank you cards sent to interviewers or (if your're good at it) a well written e-mail can go a long way. I believe that people enjoy the sense of connection they get from a hand written card. It's something that seems weird to me, but I just heard in a seminar at school about interview processes.

I hope it gets better!

[pyroweasel]

Of course everything will get better, even if you guys end up in another state. Tho it is my fondest wish that you guys end up back here of course