Women need the personal interaction of the phone, we like to hear our loved ones voice, and while chatting online might work a lot of the time, it doesn't work for most of us in the long run. It creates a barrier. You can't read an inflection. When you tell someone you love them in text, it's TEXT, words on a screen, it's the inflection of the words when you say them that make them so special.
that is true too, I can't remember how many times I have been IMing with someone and completely miss read how they were feeling. That can turn very bad.
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would take this post and copy it to my lj, but that would be stealing; and I am trying to stop that habit. Btw, if you are looking for your car......I REALLY am trying to stop.
Though I must admit, I am not the best at calling people, I do like being called. And knowing the person has an issue with phones and yet still makes an effort to call anyway makes it even more special when the calls are made. It's not even conversation most of the time, it's just hearing the voice.
I agree with "It's not even conversation most of the time, it's just hearing the voice." With AIM it is easy to lose track of the fact that there is a person behind the text that looks just like all the other text. Though the font changes or the color changes, it is still all text. There is a humanness that I get from hearing voice that I cannot get by reading words.
Yeah it's more exciting when the phone rings... with AIM if a window pops up it's probably more scary... Oh shit! A pop up! oh ... phew... it's just so and so...
person1: oh yeah that was a pretty cool show. person2: yeah *3 minutes pass by* person1: So... yeah. what are you up to? person2: Nothing. You? person1: Smae. *another 7 minutes!*
huh. I totally wrote a like a ten page paper on a similar subject and all the things that i found said that online conversations are really impersonal. No one really likes phones but we use them because they let us talk to people who are too far away to just see everyday... at least if we cared enough to keep up that interaction that's especially between two people and not just another little box on the taskbar that we can either choose to look at or not. Makes the conversation seem less important.
But are the conversations important? Does saying "I just saw a cool movie" on the phone make it more personal than saying it online, as if you care so much about that person that you're subjecting them to your directionless ramblings over airwaves instead of Internet wires?
Both are just tools. Before phones, people managed to get along just fine. In fact, the divorce rate has only increased since phones and instant messengers took over the mainstream. Maybe they are the problem, since women depend on them and men are irritated by them. :O
I suppose I just see phones as devices for contact rather than conversation. Different strokes for different folks.
I agree with you, but that's in the context of relationships. I'm talking in general terms. I'm not saying you should not call a loved one who is expecting you to simply because you don't like phones. I'm just saying why I don't like phones and the whole phone experience.
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It really shakes me up. Same with knocks at the door.
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person1: oh yeah that was a pretty cool show.
person2: yeah
*3 minutes pass by*
person1: So... yeah. what are you up to?
person2: Nothing. You?
person1: Smae.
*another 7 minutes!*
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Both are just tools. Before phones, people managed to get along just fine. In fact, the divorce rate has only increased since phones and instant messengers took over the mainstream. Maybe they are the problem, since women depend on them and men are irritated by them. :O
I suppose I just see phones as devices for contact rather than conversation. Different strokes for different folks.
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