Your more mature and experienced (compliments) and have a secure career. Extract the money from the equation. What would the new position allow you to do? What kind of legacy would you leave behind in exchange for your time. For me, for it to be worth it I would have to be secure in the knowledge that the sacrifice was for more than just money.
On the flip side they are coming to you so you have room to negotiate. My vote is if you are going to make a change with a negative outcome in you self care do it because it would feed you spiritually. You've got the material covered. No need to strive for more.
There's a dilemma I know well. My first law job was the most soul sucking miserable stress maker imaginable, but it they paid me what seemed to me to be a hilariously obscene amount of money. I lasted 3 years, built an excellent resume, gained great contacts and experience, but discovered California and wanted to be here. Next job was much more balanced (which still means horribly unbalanced - there are about 9 years here where I saw almost no tv or movies, though I managed to get out some and almost fell asleep a couple of times in Castro bars). Survived a further six years and got another gold star and abruptly quit six months after making partner, shocking everyone but I simply was on the verge of losing the last shreds of my humanity, and knew I had to get out. The job I've had since has been wonderful for the lifestyle but I can do it with one hand tied behind my back. It's been an adventure trodding an unconventional path, but I see peers who stuck it out in the big leagues with humongous bank accounts and doing
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If you get an offer, you're in a great position...to go to your boss and explain what's on the table.
Most companies will counter-offer if they value the employee. Many will even if they don't...since onboarding new people is costly; so too is losing the knowledge of the organization and its history.
Is it possible to create your own growth at your current firm?
I've gone from a similar situation ... very light work load and 35 hour work weeks ... and from the end of last year until now we've been pushing harder and harder, working longer hours. It's starting to settle down, but maintaining that level of stress was really hard on me.
It sounds like you've been in a good place with health (mental and physical) & fitness ... I don't think it's worth sacrificing that for more money.
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Your more mature and experienced (compliments) and have a secure career. Extract the money from the equation. What would the new position allow you to do? What kind of legacy would you leave behind in exchange for your time. For me, for it to be worth it I would have to be secure in the knowledge that the sacrifice was for more than just money.
On the flip side they are coming to you so you have room to negotiate. My vote is if you are going to make a change with a negative outcome in you self care do it because it would feed you spiritually. You've got the material covered. No need to strive for more.
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Most companies will counter-offer if they value the employee. Many will even if they don't...since onboarding new people is costly; so too is losing the knowledge of the organization and its history.
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I've gone from a similar situation ... very light work load and 35 hour work weeks ... and from the end of last year until now we've been pushing harder and harder, working longer hours. It's starting to settle down, but maintaining that level of stress was really hard on me.
It sounds like you've been in a good place with health (mental and physical) & fitness ... I don't think it's worth sacrificing that for more money.
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