Comments | psychomom1974: Pissed

psychomom1974

Pissed

Jul 21, 2008 11:51

I’m just so angry. I wanted to tell all of you what a great week that we had last week at Day Camp, but my ex-husband ruined that for me. In February, we agreed to a temporary reduction in child support because his income had went down. This was of course informal and just a verbal agreement. He was fairly regular about being on time, ( Read more... )

there's a reason that he's an ex, baby daddy drama, four

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femymonkey July 21 2008, 17:04:19 UTC

Sounds like it's time to go through the Attorney General's office. Not so that they can dictate what he is to pay you, but at least to have someone 'enforce and track' payments make to you.

You are right that its not their fault, but I do agree that a vacation for them isn't as important as the child support.

psychomom1974 July 21 2008, 17:10:30 UTC

I've already looked into it. There's an office of child support enforcement that the state runs, its a 25.00 application fee and then they go from there. I know what his wife is going to say about vacation though - that she's actually paying for it, not him.

femymonkey July 22 2008, 01:03:38 UTC

Oh, I'm sure she is. But at least for future issues. Had any good ideas for the party?

psychomom1974 July 22 2008, 12:13:53 UTC

We have a pool that we havent been able to put up this year because our yard is so not level, and we have to get someone out to level it. But haven't been able to afford it. My sister lives 2 blocks away, and we are going to set it up over there and have a pool party. That's the best I could do, it's not Chuck E. Cheese (which was the planned party) but it will have to do.

rovylern July 21 2008, 17:08:41 UTC

I would feel the same way you do, and I'd probably tell the ex that he should save that vacation money and use it to pay his support.

psychomom1974 July 21 2008, 17:11:55 UTC

Heh, his wife will say that she's the one paying for it. She pays all of the bills in the house, etc and he is supposedly responsible for his child support and truck note. Which ultimately means that he should have the money. I just don't know what to do - but I see a confrontation coming on.

rovylern July 21 2008, 17:15:14 UTC

Is there any legal order at all? Because technically, if it comes down to court he can't prove you agreed to lower it and he could get slapped with non-payment stuff. That might be a motivator to them to keep on your good side.

psychomom1974 July 21 2008, 17:19:24 UTC

It's in our divorce papers. I was SURE to have that in there. So technically, when and if I go to child support enforcement, he will be late because my amount is 500 a month, and he's been paying 300 a month since February. He'd have to go to court to get it lowered and if I remember correctly, the lowered amount is retroactive. I do have the email where his wife and I discussed lowering the amount informally, but I don't think that will matter in court because its not a court order.

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augusttwelve July 21 2008, 17:14:45 UTC

I understand what you're going through. I should have taken my ex to court a long, long time ago about his arrearages, but never did because I felt bad about how that would affect his current wife and kids. Jordan will be 18 next month and my ex had the audacity to send me an email a few months back that said he would continue to help Jordan financially after she turned 18. omg, are you kidding me?! He doesn't even pay the court ordered payments regularly. In fact, the last CS payment I received was in May, and that was for April's support. Over the years, I'm sure the skipped payments add up to thousands. It infuriates me to no end.

Basically I just wanted to say I am very sorry to hear that you have to deal with the same thing.

psychomom1974 July 21 2008, 17:21:16 UTC

Thanks :) His wife has been good about making sure that he pays his support and on time, but suddenly he's responsible for his own issues. It makes me think that there's more going on there than I know about. Luckily, I had him fixed before I divorced him so he can't procreate anymore, heh

anne_nahm July 22 2008, 02:27:09 UTC

That sucks. I am sorry you have to deal with it.

anne_nahm July 22 2008, 12:14:14 UTC

Thank You!

psychomom1974 July 22 2008, 12:15:52 UTC

The thank you is from me. Note to Self: Must sign in to LJ.

perversemelissa July 24 2008, 00:05:07 UTC

So, he's sort of a kept man - a lap dog?

Wonder how he'd feel about you telling him that? ;)

What a weasel...

psychomom1974 July 24 2008, 18:55:12 UTC

Ive referenced the kept man thing, he has no shame so he doesnt care. Like I've said before, there's a reason he's an ex.