Pissed

[psychomom1974]

I’m just so angry.  I wanted to tell all of you what a great week that we had last week at Day Camp, but my ex-husband ruined that for me.  In February, we agreed to a temporary reduction in child support because his income had went down.  This was of course informal and just a verbal agreement.  He was fairly regular about being on time,

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[rovylern]

I would feel the same way you do, and I'd probably tell the ex that he should save that vacation money and use it to pay his support.

[psychomom1974]

Heh, his wife will say that she's the one paying for it. She pays all of the bills in the house, etc and he is supposedly responsible for his child support and truck note. Which ultimately means that he should have the money. I just don't know what to do - but I see a confrontation coming on.

[rovylern]

Is there any legal order at all? Because technically, if it comes down to court he can't prove you agreed to lower it and he could get slapped with non-payment stuff. That might be a motivator to them to keep on your good side.

[psychomom1974]

It's in our divorce papers. I was SURE to have that in there. So technically, when and if I go to child support enforcement, he will be late because my amount is 500 a month, and he's been paying 300 a month since February. He'd have to go to court to get it lowered and if I remember correctly, the lowered amount is retroactive. I do have the email where his wife and I discussed lowering the amount informally, but I don't think that will matter in court because its not a court order.

[rovylern]

Exactly. I would make sure to bring that up, and bat your eyes and say how terribly unfortunate it would be if you had to bring CSE into it because he wasn't paying voluntarily, how you'd hate to see him risk jailtime and wage garnishment over something so silly.

[psychomom1974]

If I can ever get him to talk to me. He's practicing his classic avoidance techniques. And of course, his wife is useless at this point. So Next Monday morning, off I go to CSE. I'm over this shit with him.

[rovylern]

If you let slip to her that you're heading to the CSE office to talk about garnishment, do you think she'd kick him in the butt enough to make him stop being an idiot and talk to you?

[psychomom1974]

Who knows? They have a.....weird relationship. Apparently she already has - that's the impression I got this morning when I went over there and spoke with her. I don't particularly want to go the CSE route, but if he's in charge of his own finances suddenly, then I'm going to have to. He has NO fiscal responsibility whatsoever. And even though his income went down in February, I know he's makes enough to pay 300 a month, especially if he's only paying the truck note and child support.