Not sure if Bry mentioned or not, but I texted yesterday asking how you are doing.
*hug* I'm sorry you are in pain right now, and wish I had a magic "BABY BUTTON" that would have it just pop out of you, no labor, and let you say "Ta daaaaaa! Lookit!" as you present your child. Wouldn't that be keen?
*hug* Super excited for you, and if you don't post pictures to LJ or the old Changeling email list and the news of birth and gender and name (or at least have Bry do it for you)...I'll...I'...pout ineffectively but still be ecstatic when I do hear the news. *wink*
Here's the deal, Babe. You aren't letting anyone down. You have (as you pointed out) zero control here. That baby now runs your life. Even good babies run their parents life. But the thing about Bry's Dad - I understand how you feel and would probably say the same thing, and expect you to tell me that the first rule of parenthood is that you are no longer in complete control. That baby will bake until that baby is cramped and uncomfortable (that baby's tolerance is higher than yours)and then that baby will come out. Don't rush it, you will soon miss going to sleep at 8pm. Work because you have to but realize that work barely matters now. I love you and I know you can do this. It's not easy letting go of our inner control freak. But parenting is not a control based activity, it's a balancing act. You'll be OK. And it's OK to cry.
Ditto sarcastibich and moonartemis76. Now for my own annoying 2 cents.
Not doing anything? Are you crazy my sweet sexy friend? You are growing a baby!! You are baking a baby and that is an INCREDIBLE amount of work. You are letting no one down. You are a mother and that is the toughest job - along with being a father - that there is in the universe.
Just rest my sweet friend and know that you are loved.
Also?--you're keeping that baby safe until its ready for the world. Your job is to take care of yourself and your baby. This kid won't come out until it's ready, so you're not letting anyone down by not having it; you're keeping it safe and warm and loved inside you as it prepares itself for the world.
Be good to yourself, and work on letting others be good to you, too. (Acupuncture, incidentally, can also help both to induce labor, and make it easier when it's time--you can get needled at any point before you hit hard labor--so let me know if you'd like any information on that.)
I think belly pictures are totally awesome, and I really hope you post them!
You're strong and awesome and you'll totally make it through this. *hugshugshugs*
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I'm sorry you are in pain right now, and wish I had a magic "BABY BUTTON" that would have it just pop out of you, no labor, and let you say "Ta daaaaaa! Lookit!" as you present your child. Wouldn't that be keen?
*hug*
Super excited for you, and if you don't post pictures to LJ or the old Changeling email list and the news of birth and gender and name (or at least have Bry do it for you)...I'll...I'...pout ineffectively but still be ecstatic when I do hear the news. *wink*
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That baby will bake until that baby is cramped and uncomfortable (that baby's tolerance is higher than yours)and then that baby will come out. Don't rush it, you will soon miss going to sleep at 8pm.
Work because you have to but realize that work barely matters now.
I love you and I know you can do this. It's not easy letting go of our inner control freak. But parenting is not a control based activity, it's a balancing act. You'll be OK. And it's OK to cry.
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Not doing anything? Are you crazy my sweet sexy friend? You are growing a baby!! You are baking a baby and that is an INCREDIBLE amount of work. You are letting no one down. You are a mother and that is the toughest job - along with being a father - that there is in the universe.
Just rest my sweet friend and know that you are loved.
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Also?--you're keeping that baby safe until its ready for the world. Your job is to take care of yourself and your baby. This kid won't come out until it's ready, so you're not letting anyone down by not having it; you're keeping it safe and warm and loved inside you as it prepares itself for the world.
Be good to yourself, and work on letting others be good to you, too. (Acupuncture, incidentally, can also help both to induce labor, and make it easier when it's time--you can get needled at any point before you hit hard labor--so let me know if you'd like any information on that.)
I think belly pictures are totally awesome, and I really hope you post them!
You're strong and awesome and you'll totally make it through this. *hugshugshugs*
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