Stuck...

[libraryrachel]

So here's the deal...
I'm 28 weeks pregnant and my first OB discontinued my care because I told them I wanted a home waterbirth, that care was discontinued 10 weeks ago.
I met my new OB for my first appointment on Friday and they recieved my records from the previous doctor that discontinued my care, they confronted me about my decision to have a

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[syganzychick]

Can you cross state lines to deliver in another state? Maybe not in your home, but in a hotel room, if you're dead set against a hospital?

[faceless_facade]

My suggestion would also be to cross state lines. I think it's really important that a woman get the kind of birth she wants. I also think your SO needs to get on board with you and at least discuss your concerns.

naturalbirth and homebirth are great resources. Be strong and good luck, mama! :)

[sadistnation]

I second this suggestion, and agree that both of those communities are amazing.

[zombieheart]

Thirded. OP, please consider posting this to one of those communities (naturalbirth is the more active of the two) - I guarantee some of the ladies there can help point you in the right direction.

[volksblues]

another vote for naturalbirth. that community is amazing.

[galebird]

If it comes to it that a hospital is unavoidable for you there -are- hospitals that exist that will respect most if not all of your wishes. Never once in my entire labor and delivery in a hospital was anything at all pushed on me. I was always politely asked and if I noted that I was against something, that wish was truly respected. It is important that your SO or whatever support person/people you have with you are aware of your desires and onboard with helping you maintain them as well so, if a homebirth is impossible, a doula might be a very wise idea.

Good luck

[roseleaf]

This. I haven't given birth yet, so I guess everyone could still flip on me, but I'm continually impressed with our hospital. I was sent to be monitored there on Friday, and the nurses had read my birth plan by the time I got there and made it clear my wishes would be respected, and a nurse and two midwives in separate conversations talked about how much they didn't want to induce me.

When you bring in your birth plan, listen to your OBs responses and decide if you can trust her independent of the fact that she's an OB.

[theaspiringlife]

This! My hospital even had nice big jacuzzi tubs that they encouraged us to use during labor for pain management and comfort purposes. I am not sure if they would allow a water birth or not because it wasn't something I personally considered.

I do know that if you wanted to use the tub after your water broke, your physician had to approve it. I thought it was pretty cool that they left it up to the physician's discretion.

[cherryslipz]

I know how it feels to be stuck in a situation were your only choices is to give birth in a hospital or have to drive a couple hours to have the baby somewhere else.

Here is what I would do..
Your 2nd Ob is giving you the option to still have your water birth but just in a hospital.
Because I know how hard and scary of a thought it is to try to make it to another hospital hours away and also pray ya know someone there, i could not go with that.

I would go with the hospital water birth but make sure you have someone there with you with a back bone to make sure you get the birth you want without pain meds and also not bullied.

Whatever choice you make good luck! I know its going to be a hard one!

[livinluvinlife]

IF you chose to have the baby in the hospital, specifically tell them NOT to offer you any pain meds. If you want them, you will ask. Plain and simple. And tell them that as long as they agree to your set terms that you will do it. (well thats all you have to tell them)

But you have to remember that a birth plan is not set in stone, and some interventions, although not medically nessisary, can help. I had my water broken with all 3 of my babies. Baby #1 I had broken at 6cm and 10 min later I was fully dialated and ready to go. baby #2 they broke as he was on his way out, Baby#3 I was induced by breaking my water - had her 5 hours later no pitocin