Stuck...
So here's the deal...
I'm 28 weeks pregnant and my first OB discontinued my care because I told them I wanted a home waterbirth, that care was discontinued 10 weeks ago.
I met my new OB for my first appointment on Friday and they recieved my records from the previous doctor that discontinued my care, they confronted me about my decision to have a homebirth and have tried to talk me out of it, suggesting a birth plan that we can compromise on at the local hospital. I have to have my birthplan ready by the next visit in two weeks.
A homebirth is my dream...and the only reason I'm going to OB appointments is to make sure the baby is healthy (which determines whether or not I'll deliever in a hospital or at home) and because there are no midwives in my area, and it's illegal for them to deliever in a home in the state of Illinois.
I don't know what to do!
I'm badgered into a hospital birth even though I don't want one because of their "suggestions" during labor.
It doesn't matter which one I choose because there's going to be either everyone against me for my choice or the one person that matters most to me against my choice (the baby's father).
The previous doctor said absolutely not to a waterbirth, even in the hospital - and the new OB said they do waterbirths as long as I provide the tub, liner, etc.
I don't want the suggestions of pain medication, I don't want the suggestion of a c-section just because I'm not progressing the way the doctor wants, I don't want ANY medical intervention unless there is a TRUE emergency to either me or my baby. I can't talk about my concerns with the SO because he says that I have to make a choice but there's no talking about my concerns, if the hospital would truely follow my birthplan then I wouldn't mind having him there so in an emergency we would already be at the hospital, otherwise we're 10 minutes away.
I feel like I'm going crazy, and I really need someone to help me here. I don't know what to do.