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[stretchypants]

I was watching a documentary that ricky lake did on child birth - kinda like hospital birth vs. home birth and midwives - and it made me think to ask, did anyone feel "cheated" out of their child birth experience? Like, maybe you wanted a natural childbirth with little or no intervention and ended up having to get a c-section or unwanted

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[rhiannasilel]

My son is 7 now and I was induced with cervadil and pitocin at 37 weeks. I had an epidural, as well, so while it was still a vaginal birth it was definitely a birth with a lot of interventions. The funny thing is I didn't regret it at the time, but I do now that I'm pregnant with my second. I think some of it is that I really feel a bit bothered by a possible link between pitocin inductions and autism (my son is on the spectrum). This time around, I'm still having a hospital birth, but a birth with a midwife practice that believes in as little intervention as possible. A home birth isn't really practical for me because of the size and layout of my place. I also have a lot of animals most of which live in the living room and that's the only room, honestly, that would accommodate something like a birthing tub. My puggle thinks she's supposed to be on me or next to me every waking moment of the day and screams if I'm downstairs and we have to put her in her crate for some reason. It's just generally not a good place for me to have

[stretchypants]

my girl is almost 7 months I forgot to add. I'm not planning to get pregnant again but if I did, the whole c-section thing kinda ruins it because now they say since I had a c-section the rest of my births would have to be c-sections. kinda sux

[rainshowers]

Well, I had a c section as well and I'm trying for a VBAC this time around. You don't nessecarily HAVE to have a c section, so unless there's something medically wrong with you or your pregnancy, I wouldn't listen to anyone who said that. It may be difficult to find a doctor/midwife/obgyn/etc who will let you try, but I think it's worth the effort. :-)

[sandi1743]

what was the reason for the section?

[rainshowers]

I had a c section with my son and I didn't get to see him for almost as long as you described. I was miserable and I had to beg nurses to get him, even after I was already in a recovery room. It took my husband yelling at them to finally bring him in to me. And I saw him... And nothing really happened. I didn't love him instantly, he was cute as hell and I thought he looked like my husband but that was really it. I only held him for a few minutes and my mother wound up taking him. He was super heavy (9 lbs 6 oz) and my arms couldn't take it lol

[stretchypants]

yea I dont think I ever wanted to worry bout how I felt after the birth. I just wanted to try and take care of the baby as much as I could. and it is possible I had or have ppd but I'm not willing to take antidepressants for it. might seem silly but I've mentioned a few times to the dad how I dont think she's bonded to me either and how Im not sure if she even knows I'm her mom. now I'm feeling bonded and it seems like she's always trying to push me away tho maybe shes just too curious and interested in other things.

[x_cybergoth_x]

I would say no, I won't go into my birth, its a long ass story which if you are interested in I can link you to in my journal, but despite my section, the moment he went on my chest for skin to skin an hour and a half after birth (which was not the first time I held him, I had him for ten minutes while they were stitching me up immediately after birth, though hubby had to suppost him too so I could hold him safely) I was in love. I had no trouble bonding whatsoever, as soon as those eyes looked up at me that was it, the proverbial light going on, I cried in absolute joy. Circumstances as they were, with my epilepsy, hospital was the only place for me and things just went the way they did.

I'm sorry to hear your bonding experience was not so good, but glad top hear its happening for you now

[stretchypants]

oh Im sorry to hear that. it sux :(

[stretchypants]

Im thinking maybe mines wasnt needed either but they said her head was facing the wrong way which would make it too difficult for me to push her out, but how could they tell her head was facing the wrong way just by touch? anyway I just think they push everyone to get c-sections because its a way of hospitals to get more money from insurance companies. thats my 2 cents

[quite_rosie]

Yes, definitely... I felt like something I wanted was taken from me. I still debate in my head whether or not the c-section was needed.

[stretchypants]

same here. it wasnt that I wanted a natural birth or anything. I just wanted to hold her after it was done. after all those hard hours of labor the only thing ur looking forward to is holding ur baby and I didnt get to til everyone else had their turn. throughout the whole pregnancy I was wondering if I would have a bond with my daughter like people said I would and I just didnt get that rush of emotion by the time I finally got to hold her. suxx